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In response to "If you had seen my behavior with my son this past week, you might have called it bad parenting" by amoxy

see - i kind of relate this to the marriage thing, in my eyes

Posted by Guy (aka lostatlimbo) Feb 6 '09, 13:05

lets say you (not you mox, just theoretical you) were a deadbeat dad for the first 3 years of your child's life, but then you wised up and realized you were both better off having a father-son relationship.

do those first 3 years invalidate that relationship when he realizes (at age 10) that you were an absent father at one time?

i realize that this is a bit different because of how a child processes attachment and emotion, but we're still talking about the foundation by which a relationship is built.

because you blew it early on in the game, does not mean that you dont fully love your son now. the same COULD be true of the cheating spouse. they screwed up, but then they realized what was at stake and fully loved their spouse from that day forward.

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think of it more like, for three years of a child's life (and three years that he can remember, not the first three), his father was completely - Andie Feb 6, 13:10 1
- also - whether that man is a perfect husband now isn't the point, the point is he screwed up, lied, cheated, and she can't get past it. which most of - Andie Feb 6, 13:12
No, but the son would be well within his rights to tell dad to go shit in a hat. - TFox Feb 6, 13:07

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see - i kind of relate this to the marriage thing, in my eyes

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