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boston.com Love Letters - He Said My Friend Was Hot

Posted by Diva (aka Diva) Jan 25 '13, 10:10

I just got married. My husband and I are expecting and are four months along. The pregnancy thankfully hasn't taken over my body entirely just yet, however due to severe morning sickness and lack of energy, my normal exercise routine has been non-existent and much of my muscle is gone. I look more like a female figure from an 18th century painting than my normal, trim self.

Due to my recent physical changes and emotional fluctuations, I admit I have been quite sensitive. Just not feeling all too secure overall.

That being said, I want to know if I am being an oversensitive "girl" or if my husband is just being a "guy." Is my husband's following comment a typical guy comment, or am I correct to feel taken aback and hurt by it, even to the point where I feel my protective instincts kicking in and emotionally distancing myself from him, wondering if this is setting the tone for our marriage?

Basically what he said was that at our wedding, his brother said that a friend of mine looked "hot." I then mentioned that another relative of mine commented on this same friend, asking about her and saying she looked cute. My husband then proceeded to say, "Yeah, she did look hot that night."

I'm sorry, but I am pregnant, not feeling all too sexy, and just married at this point, and he said this woman looked hot. OK, fantasy maybe, but I think every woman wants to feel like the princess on her wedding day. I know it�s not the end of the world, but it took six years for him to even get off the pot and I always sensed a slight attraction on his part to this friend. His comment didn't make me feel in the least bit good. I know I am responsible for my feelings and self-confidence, but I felt his comment was slightly damaging. The other problem is that I can't let it go. In my mind, it's somewhat jaded my memories of that night, which at the time felt like one of the best times of my life.

Meredith, am I being an overly sensitive preggo?

� Plump, preggo and pensive, Boston

Responses:

Clearly he thought you were angling for a threesome. -- nm - spamlet (iPhone) Jan 25, 10:30
Tell us more about the hot friend. Slowly and in great detail. -- nm - pmb Jan 25, 10:30
Well, it's true! -- nm - Mop (190 lbs) Jan 25, 10:29
the hormones are eating your brain. he meant nothing by it. take some pre-natal yoga. -- nm - Andie Jan 25, 10:26 1
- Haaaaa!! -- nm - Epiphany Jan 25, 10:28
PICS???????? -- nm - Strongbad Jan 25, 10:26
well, was he right? -- nm - znufrii Jan 25, 10:23 4
- *this* there is always someone hotter/ prettier than you - Epiphany Jan 25, 10:31 3
  - unless she keeps bringing it up and reminding him. she's so hormonal - poor thing. -- nm - Diva Jan 25, 10:32 2
    - She has body image issues on top of hormones. He's a dude & didn't mean it but... - Epiphany Jan 25, 10:37 1
      - yeah, if this is the kind of stuff that's bothering her, pregnant or not, then she's going to have a long life of "feelings" -- nm - CQ Jan 25, 10:39
stfu and have another donut, tubby. nm -- nm - groiny Jan 25, 10:19
offs -- nm - Beaker Jan 25, 10:19
Shut the eff up, whah whah whah. Now take this tub of Oreo cookie dough and that pickle and get over it. -- nm - CQ Jan 25, 10:18 7
- Should I call a wah-mbulance? -- nm - Mop (190 lbs) Jan 25, 10:29 1
  - heh. nm -- nm - groiny Jan 25, 10:32
- Yeah, you want to say this, but you know pregnant women. They can be scary at times - amoxy Jan 25, 10:18 4
  - don't fuckin ask me if a chick is hot, if you don't want me to agree with you. nm -- nm - groiny Jan 25, 10:23 3
    - You wanted an honest husband, right? Well here I am, you jonah eating baby maker -- nm - CQ Jan 25, 10:25 2
      - ^^^like this. ^^^ Fat jokes in and of themselves aren't that funny until you put an original spin on them as CQ does here. -- nm - Diva Jan 25, 10:34 1
        
        She's such an emotional mess right now. -- nm - CQ Jan 25, 10:37
"I wasn't the prettiest girl at the wedding. I'm handling it poorly." -- nm - David Jan 25, 10:17 2
- I must admit - I posted this one merely for the comic gold ST could mine from it. - Diva Jan 25, 10:20 1
  - Agreed to IM cut him some slack -- nm - Epiphany Jan 25, 10:39
How did he say it? Did he say "Yeah she did look hot that night" or - amoxy Jan 25, 10:16
yes, yes you are -- nm - charlie Jan 25, 10:14
You're an adult. Use your adult brain. -- nm - Max Jan 25, 10:14

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