boston.com Love Letters - An Affair Among Friends
Posted by
Diva (aka Diva)
Jan 28 '13, 08:43
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am part of a very closely knit group of friends who have known each other for roughly decades. Everyone in the group went to school together and wound up marrying someone else in the group. Needless to say, we have become our own little (sometimes dysfunctional) family. As we've grown older, some of our friends have started their own families and have become more distant than others, but there is a core group that has always stayed close as couples.
Recently, a disaster hit our group that has caused a lot of anger, confusion, and sadness. One of the married women in our group had an affair with one of the married men in the group.
Everyone in the group is reacting differently to this situation. Some have withdrawn completely and are no longer communicating with anyone, some are angry at those who had the affair, and others are defending the ones who cheated, saying they deserve to be happy. I have been cheated on before, and my heart breaks for the ones who were on the receiving end of this pain and betrayal. I know this may sound childish to say, but I've made up my mind about how to react to those who knowingly cheated on their spouses.
My question is this: What advice do you have regarding my friends who support the actions of the cheaters? They were not involved in the affair, and they are entitled to support whomever they choose in this situation. I love them just as dearly and equally as I love the other friends in our group. Unfortunately, I also feel angry that they would condone this type of action. I realize they are happy for the found happiness of our friends who had the affair, but what about the friends who were hurt and did not see this coming?
� Stuck in the Middle, Boston
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