dear prudence chat q: she broke up with her BF after he cheated. subsequently, she miscarried a pregnancy she hadn't told him about. should she now?
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charlie (aka chris)
Jan 28 '13, 09:21
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MISCARRIAGE WITH MY EX
Hi Prudence/Emily: I broke up with my boyfriend three weeks ago after I found out that he had been cheating on me. We had been together about a year, but did not live together. I knew he was not right for me and we were not going to end up married, but still, the infidelity and accompanying lies really stung. In the weeks leading up to the split, I suspected I was pregnant (I was) but didn't say anything to him because things were so difficult between us. A few days after we broke up, I miscarried. It was devastating. Even though I know he would not have been an ideal father, and I definitely didn't set out to get pregnant, I still wanted the baby and now feel a sense of loss mixed with relief and guilt. My question is, should I tell my ex about the miscarriage? Some of my friends say he has the right to know.
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Why? There's nothing to gain from it. -- nm
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pmb
Jan 28, 09:36
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You're all wrong. The correct answer is yes. -- nm
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David
Jan 28, 09:33
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No. He'll either think you're making it up to hurt him, or you ended it by choice. -- nm
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ceregon
Jan 28, 09:31
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no. -- nm
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loosilu
Jan 28, 09:29
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only if you can make it sound like it was his fault, from the stress of having to break up with him. -- nm
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znufrii
Jan 28, 09:28
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no. -- nm
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Andie
Jan 28, 09:28
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no -- nm
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Spawn
Jan 28, 09:27
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sleep with his brother and best friend, then tell him -- nm
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tRuMaN
Jan 28, 09:27
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No!.....
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Walt_Disney
Jan 28, 09:26
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Not sure it is relevant right now -- nm
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amoxy
Jan 28, 09:25
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no -- nm
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CQ
Jan 28, 09:23
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