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If someone stands you up for a phone call one night, would you cancel a date you had planned for the next night?

Posted by Inigo (aka Inigo) Jan 28 '13, 13:42

I just cancelled a date for that very reason. I'm curious if it would be a deal breaker for anyone else.

To me, if I've just met you, and you say you're gonna do something but don't, I can't really trust you'll do what you say after that.

FWIW, she did text me this morning apologizing. She said she was tired, and upset about something, and just fell asleep. Of course, she had texted me 15 minutes before she was supposed to call seeming pretty happy.

Responses:

as long as she didn't take the call during the date and chat all evenin, at this point you're loose friends hanging out so give slack -- nm - breaking self impossed silence Jan 28, 14:13
Not only would I cancel, I would burn down her garage (or similar structure). nm - Dignan Jan 28, 13:50 10
- is "garage (or similar structure)" a euphemism? -- nm - amanda Jan 28, 14:03 1
  - Only if she's using flammable hairspray on her garage bushes. Dignan does have a fondness for the hirsute... -- nm - Max Jan 28, 14:25
- barn or other outbuilding, but not the big house? -- nm - Max Jan 28, 13:52 5
  - Guest House so any out of towners would have to stay with the family proper. -- nm - Mel Profit Jan 28, 13:55 3
    - This is harsh yet proportional. Nice. nm - Dignan Jan 28, 13:57 2
      - Thanks. Now I have escalation procedures. Potential dates will get written notice prior to phone calls. -- nm - Inigo Jan 28, 13:59 1
        
        "Call me back if you don't want to get burned out. I'm really looking forward to our date!" -- nm - Max Jan 28, 14:22
  - Right. I'm not a monster. nm - Dignan Jan 28, 13:54
- Now I *know* I made the right choice. If pixie *and* Dignan agree. -- nm - Inigo Jan 28, 13:51 1
  - we're not so different, he and i -- nm - charlie Jan 28, 13:53
Nah. I'd wait to see how the date went. -- nm - Qale Jan 28, 13:46
I would cancel. but I'm really time-sensitive. like, tardiness and standups might be my biggest pet peeve in people. - amanda Jan 28, 13:45 5
- love it. -- nm - znufrii Jan 28, 13:51
- I love that second fill-in-the-blank. -- nm - Inigo Jan 28, 13:49 1
  - P.S. Tell Laura she shoulda called last night. -- nm - Inigo Jan 28, 13:52
- that would be a good t-shirt. -- nm - Andie Jan 28, 13:48
- if i was stood up, in person, for sure i would cancel. -- nm - Andie Jan 28, 13:46
Nope. It happens. If I had gone somewhere to meet her and she didn't show, then I would likely not reschedule unless there was a very good reason. - pmb Jan 28, 13:45
part of me says no. the other part of me says if i call her to find out why she didn't call, and to make sure we're still on for tonight . . . - charlie Jan 28, 13:44
deal breaker -- nm - znufrii Jan 28, 13:43
shit happens, I would write this one off, if it happens again, I might agree. nm -- nm - groiny Jan 28, 13:43
probably not if it was a one time thing. -- nm - Andie Jan 28, 13:43 4
- I definitely wouldn't have seen any red flags, if she had texted saying she couldn't talk. - Inigo Jan 28, 13:46 3
  - i agree she could have easily texted and said 'sorry, something came up! will call tomorrow." - Andie Jan 28, 13:47 2
    - but maybe she's just *testing* him to see if he *would call her if she didn't call . . . -- nm - charlie Jan 28, 13:56 1
      - well, that would suck. -- nm - Andie Jan 28, 13:58

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If someone stands you up for a phone call one night, would you cancel a date you had planned for the next night?

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