boston.com Love Letters - Friendship After A Cheat
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Diva (aka Diva)
Feb 27 '13, 07:43
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My girlfriend and I had been dating for about five years when I found out that she had cheated on me. Needless to say, the news came as a huge shock, but at the end of the day I decided to stick out with her. She promises it only happened one time, and after more than half a decade together, I wasn't ready to throw in the towel.
It's been a few months now, and things have been pretty great. We're communicating better than ever, and while we still have some issues to work out, I generally don't have any major complaints about the relationship.
Except one. The person she was unfaithful with was a close friend of hers. She has not been in contact with him as far as I know, but the other day we got into an argument when she told me she planned on wishing him a happy birthday on Facebook.
She says it's hard to imagine not ever being friends with him again. For my part, the thought of them hanging out or communicating, even if only on Facebook, brings back some pretty unpleasant memories. I don't think it's unreasonable to not want her to have any sort of relationship with him.
We've gone back and forth on this a lot, but neither of us seems to understand where the other person is coming from. Is there a right answer here?
� Confused, Somerville
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