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Question for ST parents who have more than one child....especially for CQ and ML.....

Posted by Walt_Disney (aka Walt_Disney) Apr 22 '13, 08:27

Slight overshare, but Mrs Disney and I are seriously considering one more child. However I have a large hangup regarding how much time will likely be required to care for two young kids (Princess Disney will be 18 months old on Saturday).

Mrs Disney had a couple of medical issues that were past pregnancy related that will require me to do the vast majority of household chores and a lot of the day to day child care responsibilities for likely the duration of another pregnancy and likely the next year or two after.

I keep thinking that I will have no time to myself at all for the next couple of years and that 23.5 hours of every day will be me looking after my wife and kids. Yes I know that is part of my role as husband and father.

Is having two young kids as hard as I think it will be or am I just being selfish? And yes you can be as blunt as you feel.

Thanks :)

Responses:

Having 2 that are 12 1/2 months apart, I can say it's not easy. But it's also not overwhelmingly hard. - Jim Apr 22, 08:53
Are you in a position that outside help would be an option? Either for childcare or housework? - Meg Apr 22, 08:41 1
- Our families for the most part have been supportive, but I guess I worry about over relying on them.... - Walt_Disney Apr 22, 08:50
I am really, really glad that our kids are 6 years apart. nm -- nm - groiny Apr 22, 08:39 3
- see, I come from the opposite point of view, that sounds much worse. ;) -- nm - Don Homer Apr 22, 08:40 2
  - This is why we have one. - spamlet Apr 22, 08:50
  - one kid is old enough to lend another set of hands. - groiny Apr 22, 08:41
As an adopted child, I can tell you that there are lots of options in the world. . . - OAE -- aka Old Antarctic Explorer Apr 22, 08:32 14
- i can tell you as someone who has started the adoption process that it's not that easy. - Andie Apr 22, 08:33 13
  - That's awesome and best of luck! -- nm - Krusty Apr 22, 08:53
  - awesome, good luck! nm -- nm - groiny Apr 22, 08:48
  - :) -- nm - kelly Apr 22, 08:47
  - Good luck! -- nm - Spawn Apr 22, 08:46
  - Good luck to you and Dave. -- nm - Walt_Disney Apr 22, 08:45 1
    - thanks. - Andie Apr 22, 08:48
  - awesome! - colin Apr 22, 08:41
  - good luck - Epiphany Apr 22, 08:40
  - You'll make a great mom when it happens. Sorry that it's been tough so far. -- nm - Inigo Apr 22, 08:36 1
    - :) - Andie Apr 22, 08:37
  - (best wishes) -- nm - Don Homer Apr 22, 08:34 2
    - thanks. - Andie Apr 22, 08:34 1
      - hope it goes well for you. -- nm - zork Apr 22, 08:35
It is a lot of responsiblity, and if you already feel overwhelmed, then I say wait. - Inigo Apr 22, 08:30
I love him, but I'm not sure we'd have had the second if we could do it all over. -- nm - Don Homer Apr 22, 08:28 3
- I am ecstatically happy with only one. - Spawn Apr 22, 08:33 2
  - The worry from your last sentence just disappears once your second child is born. -- nm - Inigo Apr 22, 08:37 1
    - But see, for me, it would not. -- nm - Spawn Apr 22, 08:47

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