Dear Prudence: Q. Heartbreak, USA: I am considering having a child with my married ex-boyfriend.
Posted by
loosilu (aka loosilu2)
Jun 5 '13, 07:56
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We recently reconnected and have spent time together, without things going too far. I still love him and he claims he never stopped loving me. After our breakup I cut all ties, but knew of the marriage through mutual friends. After seven years, he sought me out. It was great catching up with him because I really missed our friendship. I don't want to cause issues in his current relationship. However, my clock is ticking and he is the only man I've ever considered being a parent with. I'm getting older and I'm in a great place with my career and finances. I date, but no one seriously. I want to start a family, and I know my ex will be a great dad. If he agrees to start a family with me, I am even willing to keep the baby's paternity a secret. I know this is inappropriate, but it doesn't necessarily feel "wrong." How out of line would it be to bring this up with him?
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Responses:
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"he is the only man I've ever considered being a parent with" Uh, you won't be. -- nm
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Spawn
Jun 5, 08:13
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if your finances are so great install some air con that might helt -- nm
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DaneDukeNuuk
Jun 5, 08:10
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Pru's answer was basically "you're an idtiot." but I found this alternative answer on a blog.
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loosilu
Jun 5, 08:06
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i think this is a prank letter. -- nm
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Diva
Jun 5, 08:05
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People make me sad. -- nm
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David
Jun 5, 08:03
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oh, *wow*... -- nm
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znufrii
Jun 5, 07:59
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he will never agree, but sure, go and ask him, then imagine explaining the situation to your child when they are about 16. -- nm
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Andie
Jun 5, 07:59
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*smh* *roll my eyes* *OFFS*
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amoxy
Jun 5, 07:58
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This makes no sense. How can he be a great dad if they keep his paternity a secret? -- nm
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mara
Jun 5, 07:58
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wtf? why keep the paternity a secret if he'd be a great dad?
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amanda
Jun 5, 07:57
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