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You don't care, but I feel like sharing: I have mentioned that I work with someone who is co-dependent and controlling.

Posted by ralph wiggum (aka Wiggum17) Feb 17 '09, 16:04

eg, she often takes it upon herself to come in to my office uninvited and "see how I'm doing". If I take the bait and mention anything other than "I'm 100% great!", she will then try to give me unsolicited advice and will persist even after I have politely shown lack of interest in that advice.

I have worked really hard to maintain appropriate boundaries with her, in part because I fear that giving her an inch will lead to even more meddling in the future, but in part because I'm just a stubbord bitch who doesn't want to acknowledge that she is (slightly) senior to me in the firm pecking order.

I was realizing the other day that if I would give in and let her "mentor" me, it would actually be a good thing for my career. But even knowingly that, it's just not worth it.

So anyway.........

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sleep with her -- nm - Dano Feb 17, 16:20
If you let her mentor you you'd have ask her for advice. - the liioulu with green m&ms Feb 17, 16:18
I have a similar situation. I just want to yell 'YOU are NOT my FRIEND!' - Dr.Vermin Feb 17, 16:17
is there someone else who could serve as a mentor? -- nm - b! Feb 17, 16:14 3
- I have other mentors/supporters. And she'snot a vindictive person who will try to screw me over or anything. - ralph wiggum Feb 17, 16:23 2
  - It sounds like it's not just your ego. - the liioulu with green m&ms Feb 17, 16:25 1
    - exactly. also, styles/behavior don't always match. - b! Feb 17, 16:30
I guess rooting through her e-mails to find incriminating gossip is out of the question, huh? -- nm - Inigo Feb 17, 16:12 1
- I know you won't believe me (I wouldn't believe me either), but I finally found the doc I wanted and went cold turkey on that other guy's emails. nm - ralph wiggum Feb 17, 16:20

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