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so, I need you all to tell me if I am wrong here....

Posted by groiny (aka groiny) Jul 12 '13, 07:43

the missus is taking her 18 year old neice and 2 of her friends to this Country Thunder 4 day concert fest, where you camp in a tent, and watch country acts for days.

So she was making her list of what she needs, and alcohol was on there, and I asked "is the alcohol for you?" to which I got "no".

So we argued about whether or not she should be the "cool aunt" and let 3 underage girls drink while in another state, at this fest.

I told her flat out that if she gets arrested for providing alcohol, I certainly am not going to bail her ass out.

Am I overreacting at all?

Responses:

You're absolutely right. First, as a parent I'd be pissed if another parent did this with my kids. Second, if anything happens it's not only arrest - pmb Jul 12, 08:04 1
- see my post below. - groiny Jul 12, 08:05
I think you're right, and it's good you put your foot down -- nm - con_carne Jul 12, 08:03
Hopefully 'domes are also on the proposed list. -- nm - Shaun Jul 12, 08:00
ugh ... that's a bad idea - even IF the parents of the other kids know and are "ok" with it - because they sure won't be if something bad happens. - JenBro Jul 12, 07:59
out of curiosity, if it was a music festival in Alberta (where the drinking age is 18), how would you feel? - mafic Jul 12, 07:57 10
- For me, legality primarily. Why put yourself in a situation where you can get arrested quite easily? All it takes is one person reporting you -- nm - oblique Jul 12, 07:59 1
  - and it could even be one of the parents that reports you! I've had plenty of opportunities to be the cool limo driver....not worth it. -- nm - CrankYanker Jul 12, 08:01
- well, I have several issues with it, really. - groiny Jul 12, 07:59 4
  - fair enough. a lot of it for me would depend on the character of the girls. - mafic Jul 12, 08:07
  - Same for me. And I'd add a number 4 which is that I would be angry if another parent did that with my kid. -- nm - pmb Jul 12, 08:05 2
    - well, other than her niece, I do not know the other parents. - groiny Jul 12, 08:07
    - see above (or below, not sure where that post is). -- nm - Spawn Jul 12, 08:06
- It's the legality I'm sure. -- nm - CrankYanker Jul 12, 07:59
- Yeah that was my question too. I think 18 is old enough to have a drink, so I wouldn't have a problem with it - Guigue Jul 12, 07:59
- Then they can buy their own beers. You are not the one allowing it. They are legal adults. (I realize you didn't ask me) -- nm - Bacon Jul 12, 07:58
No, you're not. She's already the cool aunt for taking them to this (no way I'd go to this, so props). Diff state/underage/festival, hell no. -- nm - MDH Jul 12, 07:56
yeah, I think I side with you on this one especially because it's out in public - decline Jul 12, 07:56
That's soooo wrong....no one is bringing drugs? -- nm - CrankYanker Jul 12, 07:53 1
- Even if all the kids' parents said it's ok, let THEM supply the alcohol and put them in a separate tent....but if you see it, you have to stop it. -- nm - CrankYanker Jul 12, 07:56
Nope. That has "bad idea" written all over it -- nm - oblique Jul 12, 07:51
I would be dubious about who it's for. -- nm - David Jul 12, 07:49
No, you are not wrong. This is not giving an 18 year old a glass of wine at home. This is an uncontrolled environment - amoxy Jul 12, 07:48
you're still the cool aunt if you don't bring booze. -- nm - mafic Jul 12, 07:48
I wouldn't be too bothered. As long as she's with them while they're drinking I'd be okay with it. I'd be more okay if it was some beer and not - Krusty Jul 12, 07:48 35
- For 4 *days*? Good luck staying up 96 hours straight because you know the 18 year olds can/will. - Spawn Jul 12, 07:50 2
  - They're not going to be drinking for four days straight. If they have a few drinks at night w/his wife then I'd be fine with it. -- nm - Krusty Jul 12, 07:53 1
    - If I am 18 in that local there is NO WAY I am not sneaking out when she crashes and seeing what fun I can find. - Spawn Jul 12, 07:54
- yeah, I'd be leery about giving them alcohol and setting them loose at a music festival. -- nm - mafic Jul 12, 07:49 31
  - That's why I said if she's with them. I wouldn't want them wandering around drunk but I'd be fine if they had some beers while sitting around - Krusty Jul 12, 07:51 30
    - I realise it's hard to tell from my post, but I generally agree with you. - mafic Jul 12, 07:55 7
      - I do as well. They can vote or join the military but they can't have a beer. Makes sense. If they were in Canda it would be okay but because we - Krusty Jul 12, 08:02 6
        
        It's against the law. She will go to jail if they get caught! JAIL! -- nm - Bacon Jul 12, 08:03 5
        
        If she's worried about the law that's one thing. I was arguing that it's okay for 18 year old to drink w/an adult at a concert. - Krusty Jul 12, 08:07
        
        this. whether you agree or not it is the LAW. -- nm - Beaker Jul 12, 08:04
        
        but then... conjugal visits. that might be kind of hot. -- nm - mafic Jul 12, 08:03 1
        
        white collar resort prison! -- nm - Roger More Jul 12, 08:06
        
        I don't put my freedom in the hands of 3 18 year old girls that have been drinking -- nm - Bacon Jul 12, 08:03
    - So many things can go wrong and for what? To be the Cool Aunt? Are you going to tell their parents why they got pregnant? - Bacon Jul 12, 07:52 21
      - Jeez. You're taking it pretty far. They're getting pregnant now? I just think it's okay if they have a few drink with an adult while they sit and - Krusty Jul 12, 07:54 20
        
        Do you expect the 3 18-year olds to stay in the tent under supervision for 96 hours straight? -- nm - Strongbad Jul 12, 07:56 12
        
        No but I expect the alcohol won't be available for them to drink whenever they want. I expect she'll be with them when they do have a drink. - Krusty Jul 12, 08:00 11
        
        You are so clueless on this one. -- nm - Bacon Jul 12, 08:01 10
        
        and really. I am not trying to be mean. I just don't think you understand the 18 year old mind anymore. -- nm - Bacon Jul 12, 08:02 9
        
        I don't know 18 year olds but I still think it's fine for them to drink. If the parent knows the kids and feels they're responsible enough to drink - Krusty Jul 12, 08:03 7
        
        If anyone I knew gave alcohol to my underage kid in a place like that, we would go around. -- nm - Spawn Jul 12, 08:05
        
        I HIGHLY doubt that the parents would be aware that they are going to drink with a relative stranger. nm -- nm - groiny Jul 12, 08:04 5
        
        Right. they are putting the trust in your wife that she will be responsible. -- nm - Bacon Jul 12, 08:06
        
        Also, if they happen to wander, there will be tonnes of other tents with dudes looking to party. -- nm - Shaun Jul 12, 08:06
        
        Do you think they don't drink on the weekends sometimes or at parties? Isn't it better that this time there's an adult? -- nm - Krusty Jul 12, 08:05 2
        
        (surrounded by thousands of strangers, all around you while you sleep) -- nm - Spawn Jul 12, 08:07
        
        no, but it is not my problem then. nm -- nm - groiny Jul 12, 08:06
        
        You think it's their first time drinking? I mean, they're probably already pregnant by now!! -- nm - Guigue Jul 12, 08:03
        
        Drunk dudes, now you are allowing them to drink. Hell I remember how I was at 18! Don't you? -- nm - Bacon Jul 12, 07:55 3
        
        I do and I never raped anyone. I never forced myself on anyone. They're going to have a couple of drinks, not a keg party. -- nm - Krusty Jul 12, 07:58 1
        
        And you honestly think they are going to be like good little girls and not wander off? Maybe she knows the niece well, but not her friends. - Spawn Jul 12, 08:00
        
        and her nice is a very attractive 18 year old, and her friends are not bad either. - groiny Jul 12, 07:57
        
        it isn't a completely unreasonable chain of logic to go from drinking to drunk to sex to pregnancy -- nm - oblique Jul 12, 07:55 2
        
        It kind of is. They're not out by themselves being completely irresponsible. They're with an adult who most likely is responsible and not going to - Krusty Jul 12, 07:57 1
        
        why NOT assume the worst is the more likely question and plan accordingly./ -- nm - Beaker Jul 12, 08:01
You are absolutely right. -- nm - Bacon Jul 12, 07:46
Stick to your guns. -- nm - Spawn Jul 12, 07:45 6
- I plan on it, this is how I spent about 2 hours last night, fighting about this. nm -- nm - groiny Jul 12, 07:46 2
  - I'm sure the parents of those 2 friends are the calm and reasonable type of people that want their 18 year old to get drunk and raped at a festival -- nm - oblique Jul 12, 07:54 1
    - there is also the possibility that the alcohol causes one to get sick while in a drunken stupor in bed - everyone else is passed out asleep - and she - JenBro Jul 12, 08:06
- Or tell her to be sure to take condoms, too. -- nm - Spawn Jul 12, 07:46 2
  - oooh. good answer. -- nm - mafic Jul 12, 07:46 1
    - Survey says...? -- nm - nubby, Astro-lord Jul 12, 07:52
No, you're not. -- nm - Strongbad Jul 12, 07:44

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