bonus hax chat q: is the open relationship that new BF is proposing a terrible idea?
Posted by
charlie (aka chris)
Jul 12 '13, 12:21
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OPEN RELATIONSHIP = TERRIBLE IDEA?
Hi Carolyn, About a month ago I started dating a guy I met online. At the beginning we were both casually going on dates with other people and then gradually started only seeing each other as things fizzled out with other people. Last night he brought up "the talk" and mentioned that he wasn't ready for something serious. Since we both got out of long-term relationships in February he felt it would be best if we had an "open relationship." My gut told me this is a terrible idea yet I was so caught off guard that I quasi agreed to it. I hate drama and playing games and I know an open relationship would lead to that. However, I really like him and still want to see how things develop down the road. To my knowledge, I have not pushed him for any sort of commitment that would make him suddenly rear back and ask for an open relationship. This entire thing has caught me completely by surprise and made me wonder if I should even consider dating him now that I know this about him. Is this going to be the first of many red flags?
Weirded out in Washington
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