double bonus hax chat: does (s)he have reasonable BF standards or is (s)he just a snob?
Posted by
charlie (aka chris)
Jul 12 '13, 13:23
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PRACTICAL, OR JUST A SNOB?
Hi Carolyn, I'm in my mid-30s and in a new relationship. My dating standards have relaxed some over the past few years -- I no longer need to date the handsomest, flashiest guy with the biggest personality; I prefer someone kind, funny, and stable, but until this guy, everyone I dated had, at minimum, a college degree. My new boyfriend has a job that's extremely physical and relies on his being healthy and strong at any given moment. Am I out of line/a snob for feeling uncomfortable with this? It's not exactly his lack of education (although I'm beginning to realize I value that more than I thought I did); it's that looking through a long-term lens, I can't imagine what he's going to do when his body turns on him (forcing him to retire sooner than someone in a more cerebral job would have to). He's in his early 40s, so we could be talking about anything from a few months to a few decades from now -- there's just no way of knowing. Am I a jerk for feeling this way?
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Responses:
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Considering how many professional athletes go bankrupt before they're 40, I don't think this is an unreasonable concern. -- nm
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Max
Jul 12, 13:39
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From online dating for a few months, she's no where near alone in feeling this way.
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Inigo
Jul 12, 13:34
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dear writer: if I didn't think you are a snob/close-minded/judgy person, I'd suggest you talk with him about possible future plans. -- nm
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b.
Jul 12, 13:34
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Yes, you're a jerk and deserve to be alone. -- nm
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Will Hunting
Jul 12, 13:31
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yes, you're a jerk. -- nm
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loosilu
Jul 12, 13:27
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You will die alone -- nm
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amoxy
Jul 12, 13:26
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