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So, would you like an Inigo drama update?

Posted by Inigo (aka Inigo) Sep 5 '13, 06:57

Too bad. Here it is.

So, my ex-wife is now engaged to Nicky (Formerly Nancy who was formerly Nick). Nicky is moving in to my ex's house where my kids stay half the time. This will happen some time next month.

I've told my ex it's a horrible decision to have this person as my kid's step-parent. That he's not to be trusted in any way. I also said I want a background check done, and I'd like to speak to Nicky's ex husband.

My ex is just flabbergasted that I don't trust Nicky, and says the whole incident 3 years ago was a dissociative fugue. I told her I believe that about as much as when Walter White had his fugue state. IMO, Nicky watched Breaking Bad when coming up with this latest excuse.

I'm trying to make light of this, but it kept me up all last night worrying this crazy person will be my kids' stepperson.

(I'm not being a dick about gender here. Apparently he or she is apt for Nicky. They're not sure yet.)

Responses:

I am so very sorry - good thoughts your way. :( -- nm - JenBro Sep 5, 09:15
As in this person either got or will get a sex change? -- nm - David Sep 5, 08:13
That's not the behavior of a fugue state and even if it was, like they told Walter White... that's serious. -- nm - Mop (200 lbs) Sep 5, 08:07
Is she still seeing a counselor? Try to set up a meeting with her and Nicky - amoxy Sep 5, 07:42 3
- She is, and she offered that I could talk with Nicky's therapist. - Inigo Sep 5, 07:45 2
  - If you are thinking you might be taking some sort of action later, maybe you should go ahead and do this? That way you can say you did but were ... - Spawn Sep 5, 07:52 1
    - and could possibly say you'd like your own "expert" to assess their suitability for being around your children -- nm - JenBro Sep 5, 09:15
I appreciate all the thoughts. I know you'd all help if you could. That's what makes ST great. -- nm - Inigo Sep 5, 07:40
yeesh. good luck. -- nm - Remlik Sep 5, 07:33
damn. i wish there was something I could say that would help. damn. -- nm - Diva Sep 5, 07:17
I think your concern is totally justified based on your experiences - znufrii Sep 5, 07:09 6
- ditto this. - Mel Profit Sep 5, 07:12 5
  - I'm so torn on trying to get custody. - Inigo Sep 5, 07:18 4
    - Agreed. Do the kids know of the future plans? Have they expressed any feelings on it? -- nm - Spawn Sep 5, 07:24 2
      - I'm not sure the extent of what they know. - Inigo Sep 5, 07:30 1
        
        *sigh* --nmbI - Spawn Sep 5, 07:37
    - the second paragraph is messed up. I'm so sorry this is happening this way. your kids are just so awesome. - Diva Sep 5, 07:22
Wow. Ugh. What a freaking mess. -- nm - prayformojo Sep 5, 07:08
"disassociative fugue" is now the ST Phrase of the Day. -- nm - Strongbad Sep 5, 07:08
I wasn't around for earlier stuff, but I just want to say that I don't know what to say. - spamlet Sep 5, 07:08
have you met nicky yet? (this sucks.) -- nm - amanda hk Sep 5, 07:04 8
- I've talked to him on the phone twice three years ago. Never in person. -- nm - Inigo Sep 5, 07:08
- and can you do the background check yourself? -- nm - amanda hk Sep 5, 07:07 6
  - Somewhat. I could find a lot of internet stuff, but the real life background would be lacking. - Inigo Sep 5, 07:13 5
    - can you hire someone to do it? -- nm - amanda hk Sep 5, 07:18 4
      - That's what I'll have to do. - Inigo Sep 5, 07:35 3
        
        Hire a private investigator and a lawyer (you probably already have a lawyer). What if the person is a predator? -- nm - Beryllium Sep 5, 07:42 2
        
        (But, keep in mind that I'm paranoid) -- nm - Beryllium Sep 5, 07:54 1
        
        I am too. ;) - Inigo Sep 5, 07:58
I wish I knew what to say. I *really* do. Hang in there and vent here as often as you need to. -- nm - Spawn Sep 5, 07:04

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