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This is upsetting me greatly. I need to tell someone about it.

Posted by Mop (200 lbs) (aka rburriel) Sep 8 '13, 18:29

High school was not a good time for me. But I pretty much left it behind. I have zero contact with people from high school. When reunions have come around, I've ignored them outright. I don't look these people up online and I'm certainly not friends with any of them on Facebook.

Then something happened this evening. I got a friend request on Facebook. To be fair, I've been hiding in plain sight. Anyone can Google my name and find tons about me. I figured they'd be kind enough to leave me the fuck alone, though. I didn't recognize the name but I've been building up a new friend circle lately based around the Nerdfighter community and I was curious. If it's someone I don't really know, I'll just unfriend them, right?

Well, turns out... it's someone from high school. Going through her friends list, I see dozens of names of people I know, although all their faces have changed. (It's only been 25 years!) Now she's added me to a group for my high school. I'll unfriend her and remove myself from the group. But the fact that someone's gone out of their way to seek me out has me concerned. I want to remain anonymous to these people. Leave me the fuck alone.

Mop

Responses:

I am facebook friends with a guy that hated me in high school after I dated his ex-girlfriend. He was my best friend and then I broke the Bro Code. - Bacon Sep 8, 18:51 8
- Hey, I'm friends with David on Facebook. Anything can happen. But high school's just bad memories that can come back and fuck over my current life. -- nm - Mop (200 lbs) Sep 8, 18:56 1
  - I get that. I avoided going back to my old high school town for about 15 years until I finally made peace with it. - Bacon Sep 8, 18:57
- I am FB friends with SEVERAL people who bullied me in HS Two of them recently bought my art. - loosi at home Sep 8, 18:54 3
  - Honestly it was very good for me. Resolution is good for the soul -- nm - Bacon Sep 8, 18:56 2
    - yes I am truly VERY happy that I reconnected with folks from grade school and junior high -- nm - loosi at home Sep 8, 18:59 1
      - and that said. It's not for everyone -- nm - Bacon Sep 8, 18:59
- This post makes me want to watch the Bro Code episode of Happy Endings. -- nm - Dano Sep 8, 18:53 1
  - BTW I am still Facebook friends with her and she and I remained best friends. - Bacon Sep 8, 18:55
Some people just friend every name they know - Reagen Sep 8, 18:45
I never really understood the whole we went to high school together so let's be FB friends. - CQ Sep 8, 18:38
Imagine all of your high school friends posting anti-Obama screeds every day. - David Sep 8, 18:38 22
- I just block those people from my FB feed. Then I feel less like a bitch but I don't have to hear from them. nm - ralph wiggum Sep 8, 18:40 21
  - 1000% this. -- nm - loosi at home Sep 8, 18:47
  - same -- nm - CQ Sep 8, 18:44
  - one of my brothers cousins is *very* right wing so I hid her feed. -- nm - Remlik Sep 8, 18:43 4
    - welcome to MY ENTIRE DAD'S FAMILY -- nm - loosi at home Sep 8, 18:48 3
      - My in law side of the family. My side is God-Preachy so not much better -- nm - Pippy Sep 8, 18:55 2
        
        my BELOVED lookalike aunt's entire married family is Lebanese/Syrian Catholics who HATE Muslims. - loosi at home Sep 8, 18:58 1
        
        Yeesh -- nm - Pippy Sep 8, 18:58
  - I've started to do that but I have three really good friends that era whose non-political updates I want to see. - David Sep 8, 18:42
  - I *just* did that with a guy a used to work with. - Kim Pine Sep 8, 18:42 12
    - Side note: I am friends with someone from HS who is 46. Every year or so he gets a new super hot 25 year old girlfriend. - ralph wiggum Sep 8, 18:44 11
      - Kim and I have a standard understanding that if anything happens to her, I have earned a twinkie. - David Sep 8, 19:01 1
        
        You say that like twinkies are easy to come by. -- nm - Mop (200 lbs) Sep 8, 19:18
      - good man. -- nm - Remlik Sep 8, 18:44 8
        
        oh fuck you -- nm - loosi at home Sep 8, 18:55 1
        
        hey if isn't gonna get married, then he may as well keep trading in for a new model. -- nm - Remlik Sep 8, 19:00
        
        He also sometimes posts pictures from parties he's gone to at the Playboy Mansion, which cracks me up. nm - ralph wiggum Sep 8, 18:45 5
        
        Jesus. Someone from Elkhart made to it the mansion? -- nm - Remlik Sep 8, 18:47 4
        
        At least 2 from my HS class! This guy and a dude who was a super nerd and grew up to be a European film distributor with a hot Czech wife. nm - ralph wiggum Sep 8, 18:48 3
        
        Yowza impressive -- nm - Pippy Sep 8, 18:57
        
        good lord. -- nm - Remlik Sep 8, 18:57
        
        dayum -- nm - loosi at home Sep 8, 18:49
25 year down the line ppl tend to forget the bad stuff - DaneDukeNuuk Sep 8, 18:34 1
- But why bother? -- nm - Spawn Sep 8, 18:37
Not to bum anyone out (because it's ok, I'm ok), but I got a FB request from one of my Jr High School rapists - ralph wiggum Sep 8, 18:34 23
- whoa. -- nm - kelly Sep 8, 18:58
- :( - Pippy Sep 8, 18:58
- How horrible! -- nm - Bacon Sep 8, 18:53
- holy everlovin shit. rafe, I'm sorry -- nm - loosi at home Sep 8, 18:41
- Wow -- nm - amoxy Sep 8, 18:41
- Jesus. -- nm - Mop (200 lbs) Sep 8, 18:40
- Good Lord -- nm - prayformojo Sep 8, 18:40
- All kiding aside, why do you people like Facebook? - Spawn Sep 8, 18:39 12
  - Okay, just checking. Nothing here makes it anywhere near worth it. Thanks. -- nm - Spawn Sep 8, 19:00 2
    - Yes, licking stamps and writing letters to my family that lives in California is much better. hey, kids get off my lawn.... -- nm - Bacon Sep 8, 19:12
    - pixie -- nm - Dano Sep 8, 19:07
  - Games -- nm - Pippy Sep 8, 19:00
  - I love it. I can share pictures with a large group of people without having to email cc everyone. I get to find out family news etc -- nm - Bacon Sep 8, 18:54
  - I have connected with family and friends I NEVER would have found. it has been incredibly rewarding. -- nm - loosi at home Sep 8, 18:51 1
    - INCLUDING my long lost paternal cousin Peter. never met. very bad family history. - loosi at home Sep 8, 18:53
  - connect with actual friends and family. that way I don't ahve to make dumbass small talk when I'm on the phone. -- nm - Remlik Sep 8, 18:42 2
    - "like I do with you, SPAWN." nm - Captain Subtext Sep 8, 18:46 1
      - that's what we text for. -- nm - Remlik Sep 8, 18:47
  - I've connected with a lot of people I'm actually happy to reconnect with. nm - ralph wiggum Sep 8, 18:42
  - Candy Crush. -- nm - Mop (200 lbs) Sep 8, 18:40
- jeebus -- nm - Dano Sep 8, 18:38
- Yikes -- nm - Don Homer Sep 8, 18:38
- ugh, just ugh. -- nm - CQ Sep 8, 18:36
I would just say that around a reunion year you'll tend to see things like this. - Dano Sep 8, 18:34 1
- Yeah, it's 25 years next year. I see what they're doing but I'd hope they'd take a hint. -- nm - Mop (200 lbs) Sep 8, 18:40
evil -- nm - Spawn Sep 8, 18:33
I had the same history in high school and got added to my High School group...I ignore them.... -- nm - Remlik Sep 8, 18:33
bang her -- nm - Beaker Sep 8, 18:32
If it was that bad, maybe they are trying to reconcile -- nm - amoxy Sep 8, 18:31 4
- People can change a hell of a lot in 25 years. -- nm - kelly Sep 8, 18:32 1
  - agreed. - Mel Profit Sep 8, 18:35
- this! i have several of these folks in my FB friends, and it has been very rewarding. -- nm - loosi at home Sep 8, 18:32 1
  - Though I had a bad time in High School also and only communicate sporadically with one friend from HS - amoxy Sep 8, 18:35
ok. I have the same kind of history, bad time in grade school and high school. I've got numerous friend requests from those folks. - loosi at home Sep 8, 18:31
It's not at all sad or pathetic that SlackerTalk is where I have to turn for venting and comfort. -- nm - Mop (200 lbs) Sep 8, 18:30 1
- it's totally cool. :) we all need an anon place to vent. -- nm - loosi at home Sep 8, 18:31

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