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In response to
"Dear Prudence..."
by
Don Homer
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Here is prudie's response...
Posted by
Don Homer (aka DonHomer)
Sep 9 '13, 11:19
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You work with kids, so I wish it had occured to you that showing up as a regular presence in the life of a vulnerable 6 year-old and "being good" with him was going to give this child a powerful sense of connection and longing. Your letter should also be a warning for single parents of young children. Those kids should be protected from the adults' social lives until the parent is in a relationship that is serious and established and it's clear that everyone getting to know each other makes sense. If you're going to continue to see this woman for uncommitted sex, then you two need to figure out a way to do this without passing through the life of her little boy. But don't just disappear. The next time you see him, you should have a private talk with him. You can tell him that you appreciate how strong his feelings are for you and that he could tell you. Explain that love is a really powerful emotion -- and word -- and that some people only say it when they know someone really, really well. You're one of those people. So tell him that you feel lucky you've gotten to know him, that you've enjoyed talking to him and hearing his stories [or whatever it is you've done together], and you like him so very, very much.
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