meredith's LL response to the Mo' Money, Mo' Problems guy...
Posted by
Diva (aka Diva)
Sep 18 '13, 06:49
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Please use the money from the extra class to go out and be social with your wife. You can't stop living while you wait for another job, and you need to learn balance. Saving is good, but so is having fun with your partner. You have to invest in the relationship.
Tell her that you miss going out with her (assuming that's true), and that you hope to use the class money to be better in the present. I'm not advising big nights out on the town, by the way. I'm thinking appetizers and a movie or a free night at a museum followed by a drink with some friends. And yes, you should plan some of these nights.
I also recommend that you have more daily communication about the job search because I doubt she knows that it's still a big priority. She didn't realize that you were on the same page about the future until you talked about your goals in therapy. Keep telling her where you are so that she can't make assumptions about what you're doing (or not doing) to move forward.
Readers? Should he be going out more? Is this about his salary or his inability to go out? Should he use the extra money to be social? Should he tell her he saw the Gmail? Should they stay in therapy? Discuss.
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