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So, when you break up with somebody, do you want to still be friends?

Posted by amoxy (aka amoxy) Feb 23 '09, 09:21

Me no way...I can't do the whole, lets still be friends. Too painful for me.

The only ex that I still am in contact with is my ex-wife and that is only because of the kids.

I got an email last night asking to still remain friends...No it is not going to happen

Responses:

by and large no, but probably my two best friends are exes. -- nm - mafic Feb 23, 09:47
it depends. -- nm - loosilu Feb 23, 09:45
Absolutely not. I cut all ties the instant we know it's over over. -- nm - Name Withheld By Request Feb 23, 09:42
Maybe in time...when I'm macking it with someone sexier. -- nm - HdnAgnda the spiteful Feb 23, 09:41
sorry man. and no I think it depends on the relationship - tRuMaN Feb 23, 09:36
i used to, i think i wouldn't anymore. friendly, not friends. -- nm - Andie Feb 23, 09:36
very situationally dependent. I would say in most cases, no. - znufrii, unpatriotic Feb 23, 09:34
btw, my bf and i have already talked about this. he was surprised i wouldn't want to remain friends if we split. -- nm - kare Feb 23, 09:29
not anymore -- nm - alpine misanthrope Feb 23, 09:29
not a chance. all or nothing. -- nm - Jim Feb 23, 09:27 1
- word. -- nm - the ides of march love mandy lane Feb 23, 09:29
not really. This only really worked out for me - once - and there was several months in between - Epiphany Feb 23, 09:25
Depends. -- nm - Loyola Feb 23, 09:25
I wished we were just friends and never crossed that line. -- nm - Sheep Feb 23, 09:24
I've done it before, but only after years of being apart. "Time heals all wounds" -- nm - con_carne Feb 23, 09:24
Yes, if I'm the one dumping. No, if I'm being dumped. -- nm - CrankYanker Feb 23, 09:24 12
- I agree with this. -- nm - JaxSean Feb 23, 09:28
- see, i think this is kind of cruel, if it's one-sided. -- nm - kare Feb 23, 09:25 10
  - Dumping or gettting dump often is one sided. -- nm - Cuzzin Todd Feb 23, 09:28 1
    - i know... i completely wasn't making sense. CY understood though! ;) -- nm - kare Feb 23, 09:34
  - But it makes sense, one person always loses the feelings first, ya know? -- nm - Gwaahjo Feb 23, 09:27 4
    - I was posting from my point of view - she's looking at it from the dumpee's pov. -- nm - CrankYanker Feb 23, 09:28 3
      - right, but I'm considering you could be in either position at some point in your life. -- nm - Gwaahjo Feb 23, 09:30 2
        
        and i'm saying you are better off with a clean break, either way - kare Feb 23, 09:32 1
        
        I totally agree it's healthier and a cleaner break, but it's not reality for what most people do or perceive they should do - Gwaahjo Feb 23, 09:35
  - I getcha, I guess I feel guilty and think being friends is a slow let down, but you're right, it's cruel. -- nm - CrankYanker Feb 23, 09:26 1
    - i can see that. :) -- nm - kare Feb 23, 09:28
  - (wanting to remain friends with someone *you* dump) -- nm - kare Feb 23, 09:25
no, no, no. a clean break is best. maybe eventually, when there are truly no feelings left. and sorry you're going through this, hope you're doing ok. -- nm - kare Feb 23, 09:23
You can't be. - Cuzzin Todd Feb 23, 09:23 1
- But I will add I think after some time (a lot of time) has passed you can be "friendly aquaintances" so to speak. -- nm - Cuzzin Todd Feb 23, 09:24
I always thought I did at the time of break-up. - kelly Feb 23, 09:23
the longest time after I've broken up with someone that I've spoken to them (excepting awkward bumps into in the street) is one month. -- nm - Reagen Feb 23, 09:23
Friends....with benefits? - Subversive - VCP Feb 23, 09:22
I usually don't talk to a girl for awhile, but after some time I'm usually friendly with them again - Gwaahjo Feb 23, 09:22
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oh honey...so sorry. : ( -- nm - Diva Feb 23, 09:22
no -- nm - Don Homer Feb 23, 09:21

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