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In response to
"There is a point, where after so many failures a person can either continue, or step back and rethink"
by
Truman
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As an Online Dating success story I will say this. I was beaten down over, and over, and over and over and over and over and over
Posted by
Bacon (aka redmond)
Nov 2 '13, 14:56
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I had to take 1 month breaks, 3 month breaks, even a 5 month break from it. But the alternative was to meet women in a bar? At work (this is always a bad idea for me. When you break up you still get to see them every day. I stopped doing this in my early 20s.) Meet them at the store?
So after I cooled off, built my ego back up, and rested up from it. I would return to online dating, stronger, more confident, and smarter that I was the earlier times.
Eventually it paid off. I think it took me about 4 years, but it finally did.
I easily dated over 50 different women before I met Hotcakes. Either I didn't care for them, they didn't care for me, or we each didn't care for the other.
Along the journey I made 3 good female friends, and half dozen casual friends in the process. Hotcakes and I have even been out with a woman I dated for 6 weeks before she dumped me. That woman is now married, and I am about to be married, but we remain really close friends. Her Husband took some time to warm up to me and not see me as a threat, but now we get along great.
So what I am saying is this. Yes, you sound beaten down as was I many a time. The best thing to do is turn off all your profiles, and take a break through the holidays. Get your new job going well, your home life going well, and see what you think about it early next year. By then the websites will be filled with new ladies that you haven't even seen yet. They will have not seen you. Build your confidence back up and try again then.
You have a lot to offer someone. You just haven't met her yet. These ladies aren't the right fit, but there is a nice lady out there that is going to think you are the best thing to happen in her life.
Hugs Truman
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