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In response to
"As an Online Dating success story I will say this. I was beaten down over, and over, and over and over and over and over and over"
by
Bacon
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Oh and this too.
Posted by
Bacon (aka redmond)
Nov 2 '13, 15:05
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The one thing a woman and sense is when a man has no confidence. Once you get beaten down like you are? They will notice it right away. Hell, I don't know how they sense it but they do. Guys must throw off some body language thing or whatever.
Also when you are super confident? Your game is ON! They respond to that as well. It's almost like sports. Momentum carries you through the next win. When I was having success, I was being chased a lot. It kept carrying over until the next date for more success.
When I was beaten down? I would fail, and fail, and fail over and over. I was throwing off a bad vibe I guess.
I met Hotcakes on a cocky streak I was going through. I remember to this day exactly what I did right. After a 14 hour date I asked if I could see her that Sunday. She said she had already made a second date with this other guy and thought it would be rude to cancel it on less than a days notice. My response? I have no worries at all. After you have gone out with me, he's going to seem like a consolation prize. May the best man win and I left.
I am NOT that arrogant at all. But I felt like it was the correct response to a possible test she was throwing out there to see if I would beg or get upset about it. I have no clue, I just went on instinct and she did admit later that I seemed like I had lot's of opportunities and I wouldn't be devastated if it didn't work out with her. So she all of a sudden had something to lose.
Anyway I do remember that being an important moment for us. Put a little doubt in each others mind that there was a chance the other person might not be around if we took too long to have another date sooner than later.
It's all about timing I guess
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