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In response to "i can honestly say it is none of my business what my sibling does in his relationship. i would never get involved. -- nm" by Andie

That is certainly your choice. If I cared about someone and I knew they were being deceived, I would say something.

Posted by David (aka David) Mar 20 '14, 08:04

Everyone has their own ethics about these things. The points that cannot be denied are 1) the sister was not being honest about who she is and 2) the other sister's feelings developed into an actual marriage.

If anything, what I take from this is that on top of lying to a person for three months, the sister has now played the victim card for *years*, thereby damaging her sister's relationship with their parents. She sounds like a truly horrible human being. I am genuinely surprised by the support for her in this thread.

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Nobody really has a right to go around telling people how they should identify themselves -- nm - con_carne Mar 20, 08:26
"1) the sister was not being honest about who she is" is wrong - ty97 Mar 20, 08:13 8
- Who you were is always still part of who you are. - Inigo Mar 20, 08:24
- I'm sure that distinction means something to you but it does not to me. Inigo is right about Lie of Omission as a best case scenario. -- nm - David Mar 20, 08:16 6
  - The distinction should matter to you too. - ty97 Mar 20, 08:18 4
    - I am thinking of Rhonda as a woman who was once a man. -- nm - Bacon Mar 20, 08:22
    - I can't speak for anyone else but I am not. And the distinction still does not matter to me. - David Mar 20, 08:21 2
      - you can replace "transgender" with "inoperable cancer" and the results are the same. nm -- nm - groiny Mar 20, 08:22 1
        
        in that those things should be shared up front, or as close to up front as possible. nm -- nm - groiny Mar 20, 08:23
  - "my girlfriend used to have a dick", is a big deal to me, right or wrong. nm -- nm - groiny Mar 20, 08:18
As I said, they are *all* horrible in this. -- nm - Spawn Lord Mar 20, 08:06
this -- nm - Beaker Mar 20, 08:04 12
- What if Rhonda thoguht he was "the one" and was struggling with how to have the conversation but was planning to? - Spawn Lord Mar 20, 08:11 11
  - If he were The One, she would have had no problem telling him from the start. - David Mar 20, 08:14 10
    - People do not always know it is The One from the beginning. That talk is one that would be difficult. - Spawn Lord Mar 20, 08:22 6
      - He was a single guy. She was a single girl. The "stole him" part is out the window since he was available. - David Mar 20, 08:23 5
        
        Amy went to him and broke up the relationship. She *made* him available. - Spawn Lord Mar 20, 08:27
        
        It's the sibling version of the bro code. -- nm - Roger More Mar 20, 08:26 3
        
        Scumbag sister. -- nm - Shaun Mar 20, 08:26 2
        
        Yeah, I am shocked that anyone would take her side on this. -- nm - Spawn Lord Mar 20, 08:28 1
        
        had he been told the truth up front, it would not have come to that -- nm - groiny Mar 20, 08:30
    - I was just getting ready to type this. He wasn't The One -- nm - Bacon Mar 20, 08:15 2
      - i agree he wasn't. but that doesn't mean Rhonda wasn't seriously hurt by this. -- nm - Andie Mar 20, 08:18 1
        
        I am sure Rhonda was very hurt. I agree. - Bacon Mar 20, 08:21

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That is certainly your choice. If I cared about someone and I knew they were being deceived, I would say something.

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