dear prudence - My Husband Has Spent Our Entire Marriage Writing a Screeplay - Help!
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DivAugust (aka Diva)
Nov 7 '14, 12:37
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Dear Prudence,
My husband and I have been married for six years and together for 10. He was a creative director with a good income when we got engaged but once we got married we decided he would work on finishing his movie script. He hasn’t worked since and the script has little chance of ever making money. I was diagnosed with infertility five years ago and we have not had success with treatment or private adoption. I have my master’s degree and a good job. But with one income, and living in a high cost area, we are always struggling and can’t even afford health insurance. I love my husband, he understands me and encourages me to be creative, fun, inspired, and authentic. I married him because he is fearless in his artistry and living with him makes me feel as if everything is ahead of us. However, I have considered leaving him for all the obvious reasons: his having no real work ethic and my feeling used. Recently things were terrible at work because of a merger, and I was coming home crying. To my shock my husband suggested he put the script away, we move out of state to be near his family where the cost of living is lower, he find a job, and we could adopt. I was thrilled! We started looking, and I have been offered a good job with fewer hours, great benefits, but significantly less pay. He hasn’t found anything although he’s not looking hard. Then things calmed down at my current job and I may have an opportunity for exciting advancement. I have to accept or deny the job offer very soon and I don’t know what to do.
—An Anchor or a Beautiful Balloon?
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Responses:
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Tell him to leave and not to come back until he has either a baby or a job. -- nm
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Spawn
Nov 7, 12:48
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she doesn't say she's talked with him about recent developments, so start there.
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b.
Nov 7, 12:47
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6 years without work is ripping it. Get his CV and start applying for jobs on his behalf.
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Loyola
Nov 7, 12:47
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wait, so, her husband did what she needed him to do, now she has good options, and she wants advice?
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Andie
Nov 7, 12:44
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will the "exciting advancement" be exciting enough make up for staying with your deadbeat husband? -- nm
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znufrii
Nov 7, 12:44
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Have a disastrous affair with a co-worker -- nm
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decline
Nov 7, 12:43
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