bonus hax chat question: she's ready to bail because she hasn't seen her BF in *two* weeks!
Posted by
pigby (aka chris)
Mar 20 '09, 11:20
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Pull the Trigger, MA: I've been seeing this guy for about 3 months. It's going great. Well, it WAS going great. He is being headhunted by several big companies under the umbrella of the company he is in now. He is getting wooed heavily and thus being flown to different cities to check them out. He doesn't really have a choice in the matter because his bosses ask him to go. Add that in to a busy work week and I've not SEEN him in nearly 2 weeks.
He's texted (in response to my texts) but that's it. I wrote once (after not hearing anything for several days) that I knew he was busy but I was feeling a bit like a convenience and nervous. He responded that he understood and that we'd talk about it soon but he wouldn't be much help now as he is out of town. He also said he wanted to stay where he was (with me) if he can manage it, but if he moved he didn't know where to go from here.
I scare easy and he knows this. I work in a nonprofit field so this is all new ground to me. My friends in the corporate world say it can be very common to lose touch for a few days. I say you eat meals, you sleep, you commute and in that time there IS time to drop a line to someone if you want to.
I'm not mad, he IS a nice person. But I am sort of coming to the conclusion that maybe it's over. He may move if any of these jobs pan out, and or he may stay right where he is. Regardless, I'm shutting down and closing off and backing up and I don't know that when I DO see him I'll be able to jump right back to where we were.
He's been great at every exchange, but this.. sucks! I would like to remain friends if he moves but I don't know that I see a future if he doesn't even seem to care about contacting me.
I have a history of walking away from potentially good situations due to bumps in the road -- single is comfortable for me. This seems like the end of the road, not a bump. Should I give him the benefit of the doubt? I've already deleted his number and figured maybe this is it.
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Responses:
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"almost two weeks" - seriously, relax. she has nothing to lose by letting him get through this busy time then seeing where he's at.
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Andie
Mar 20, 11:43
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Dear Carolyn, whenever I try to be with my boyfriend he yells "There's no time." He works for the government, fights terrorists or something."
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Max
Mar 20, 11:41
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I don't understand why they don't talk on the phone. If they're close, that would seem to be a given. If it's not a given, then I suppose they're clos -- nm
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mara
Mar 20, 11:32
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Pretty tough to have a relationship when somebody is gone, esp. if he might pull up stakes. Her instincts are serving her well. She needs to move on. -- nm
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con_carne
Mar 20, 11:25
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what an effin nutcase. I'd change my number if I was him. -- nm
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CQ
Mar 20, 11:25
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there is not a question in there - she has already made a decision and moved on -- nm
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Epiphany
Mar 20, 11:24
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Give him the benefit of the doubt. I went 2 days once and I literally forgot that I had a gf. Don't know what came over me. -- nm
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Loyola
Mar 20, 11:24
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A friend of mine has been on 3 dates with a guy and hasn't even got one kiss. I told 'em that's not good. -- nm
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Qale
Mar 20, 11:23
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If the relationship is worth it, you make time for it�
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amoxy
Mar 20, 11:23
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Haha 2 weeks. These people are insane and/or watch too much CW. -- nm
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Shaun
Mar 20, 11:23
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I sure hope the guy dodges this bullet. -- nm
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Will Hunting
Mar 20, 11:22
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