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In response to
"always go with the more salacious material -- nm"
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crash davis
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Posted by
pigby (aka chris)
Mar 20 '09, 12:14
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More about dads and mistresses: This is in the same vein as last week's question about the mistress coming to the funeral (though not nearly so final and wrenching):
So my Dad's leaving Wife #2, who started out as the "other woman" in my parents' marriage, when I was in high school. In the process, it comes out that he'd had numerous affairs during my parents' marriage.
Now he's seriously involved (again) with the woman he had an affair with when I was in kindergarten. Let's call her "Sally." (At the time, he broke it off when my Mom found out, and then Sally soon moved out of the area. Wife #2 didn't come along until another 10 years later.)
Dad wants me to accept Sally and recognize that she makes him happy now (or "for now"). But I can't help but be angry with Sally. I understand the affair is ancient history for my Dad, but it's recent history for me (since I only just found out about the other affairs). Dad's not off the hook with me either, but we've worked hard to make peace and I want him in my life. But I really find it hard to respect or welcome Sally, someone unrelated to me who knowingly slept with a married man, esp. one with kids. (She knew he was married, she was a part-time employee of his who knew our family. I vaguely remember her from visits to his office.)
I haven't met her yet as an adult (we live several states away), but I'm not looking forward to the inevitable get-together on some visit. So what do I do here? Suck it up and embrace her, and let go of the anger? Be true to myself and try to gently say, "You know, I'm happy that you make my Dad happy, but I have a problem with you on my own behalf?"
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