friday hax chat q: is new BF's idea for her to call in sick at work for two straight weeks to go on a trip with him a red flag?
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Q: Relationship Red Flag
Hi Carolyn, I have been in a sorta new relationship of four months with I think a great guy. He is planning a two week wilderness trip with some of his friends this summer and invited me along. I told him I did not have to time to take off from work. He became unexpectedly angry and told me that if I loved him as much as he loves me, I would find the time. I have never seen him so angry. I was taken aback and lied that I would see what I could do. He said I should just call in sick FOR TWO WEEKS. Now he tells me his ex will be there and is hinting she wants ot hook up. My friends tell me this is a big red flag that he is controlling and maybe abusive and I should let the ex have him back. He refuses to accept that I cannot go and says he really wants to see how much fun his friends are. Are my friends right about this being a red flag or is he maybe uber excited about this trip and really upset that I will not get to meet his friends? Should I just wait to see if he returns to his normal kind self when the excitement of this trip is over?
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Responses:
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Let's get to the real issue here. You're afraid of hiking and a possible 3 way with his ex. If you love him like he loves you, you'd do it -- nm
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CQ
May 15, 11:18
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Who calls in sick to work for TWO weeks? More than 3-4 days and I'm supposed to bring in a doctor's note. -- nm
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sycor
May 15, 11:13
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Run. Do not walk away, run away. -- nm
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volnelk
May 15, 11:13
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F*** the Doorman -- nm
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amoxy
May 15, 11:11
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he does not handle disappointment well -- nm
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z on the go
May 15, 11:07
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Calling in sick, no?
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oblique
May 15, 10:57
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*facepalm* -- nm
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Shaun
May 15, 10:57
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Yes. Yes it is. -- nm
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Andie
May 15, 10:57
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