friday hax chat q: the love (really lust) letter
Posted by
tristafé (aka chris)
Jun 5 '15, 10:17
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Q: Sad Story Flaring Up
Hello Carolyn, thanks for considering my question. Decades ago, when my husband and I were in our thirties and raising babies, we became very close friends with a group of couples with kids of similar ages. We did everything with these people and I look back on (most of) that time as some of the most fun I ever had. Then one day, while deep-cleaning my home, I found hidden a letter my husband had written to one of the other wives in the group. It was two pages long and handwritten and professed very deep feelings for her. The first page was quite poetic and emotional and the second page was graphic and sexual. After 25-odd years I can still quote it almost word for word. I was numb and returned the letter to where I had found it. Over the next few weeks, I checked that place repeatedly, almost compulsively, and the letter was still always there. Eventually, that other couple moved away. At some point after that, I checked again for the letter and it was gone. I do not know whether my husband sent it to her, ripped it up, or simply moved it to another place. I do know that I never mentioned it to him and that we went on to have a very normal marriage, raise our children, and stay committed. The daughter of another member of that former group is getting married next weekend, and the wedding will mark the first time I have seen that other woman (the intended letter recipient) since the early 90s. It may be fine. She may be old and frumpy, or she may look great for our age but hold no appeal for my husband at this point. I do not know what to expect, but I feel my heart clutch whenever I think of seeing her, particularly with my husband by my side. I have a very simple question. Do you think that, after all this time, I should mention the letter to my husband and allow him the chance to reassure me?
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