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i am actually surprised he turned out like this, he did one of two things:

Posted by Andie Aug 27 '15, 12:48

(1) lent money to a family member to help them get through an expensive time when they needed help

or

(2) gave them $7000 to help them.

neither of those things are the actions of a jerk.

too bad it turned this way... :(

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Right. And, while I didn't read the whole thing, wasn't it to take care of the funeral arrangements while she sorted through selling the assets of - pmb Aug 27, 12:57 17
- when the husband and him were at the funeral home making arrangements, the 2 of them supposedly - groiny Aug 27, 13:01 15
  - I guess. IMHO at worst the guy changed his mind and now wants his gift to be a loan. Since it was in the best case scenario a gift, if he wants it - pmb Aug 27, 13:07 11
    - it is frustrating, and feels like from my perspective, that he sees the opportunity - groiny Aug 27, 13:10 9
      - Yeah, not arguing that the guy isn't being a jerk, but just looking over the situation with a more objective, outsider's view, I think it's not really - pmb Aug 27, 13:13
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        it is possible that, because he (husband) just lost his mother, and was very sick himself.... - groiny Aug 27, 13:16 1
        
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        it could be he was embarrassed to have to ask for help and didn't talk about it. a lot of non-communicating about money goes on with some couples, - b. Aug 27, 13:15 3
        
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        I hadn't seen it when I was typing, but now see above. I wish it was simpler, grny, truly. (everyone should get everything in writing, when it's not- - b. Aug 27, 13:17 1
        
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        the money went right to the funeral home. - groiny Aug 27, 13:14
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  - so was this two brothers paying for their mother's funeral? - Pippy Aug 27, 13:04 2
    - this is a son and his uncle. So her brother and her son. nm -- nm - groiny Aug 27, 13:04 1
      - ahh. -- nm - Pippy Aug 27, 13:05
- yeah, this is my thought too. -- nm - jones soda Aug 27, 12:59
I kind of feel like they needed to talk more at the initial transaction. this could all have been avoided. this said, - jones soda Aug 27, 12:55 5
- have to wonder if he was totally surprised he was cut out of the will -- nm - zeitgeist Aug 27, 12:57 4
  - maybe not the will all together ( we dont know) but he was cut out of the house. there is a lot we don't know -- nm - Pippy Aug 27, 13:00 1
    - no one got anything from the will except for my mom and her husband. - groiny Aug 27, 13:03
  - from what I understand, he was very shocked and is pissed about that. - groiny Aug 27, 12:59 1
    - that could be it. he could have given the $7000 expecting he would get it back from the estate, and then... no. Maybe he couldn't afford the gift in - Andie Aug 27, 13:17
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Some assholes think widows are easy prey. - Loyola Aug 27, 12:52

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