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In response to "when the husband and him were at the funeral home making arrangements, the 2 of them supposedly" by groiny

I guess. IMHO at worst the guy changed his mind and now wants his gift to be a loan. Since it was in the best case scenario a gift, if he wants it

Posted by pmb (aka pmb) Aug 27 '15, 13:07

back I think I'd give it back. It makes him not a great guy, but at worst your mom is no worse off than she started. I'd feel very differently about this if this was compensation for something, but at worst it's just being a jerk. I don't see it so much as taking advantage because it was something he didn't have to do in the first place and even in the worst case scenario he floated the money so your mom didn't have to while she settled the estate. She still got upside.

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it is frustrating, and feels like from my perspective, that he sees the opportunity - groiny Aug 27, 13:10 9
- Yeah, not arguing that the guy isn't being a jerk, but just looking over the situation with a more objective, outsider's view, I think it's not really - pmb Aug 27, 13:13
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  - it is possible that, because he (husband) just lost his mother, and was very sick himself.... - groiny Aug 27, 13:16 1
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  - it could be he was embarrassed to have to ask for help and didn't talk about it. a lot of non-communicating about money goes on with some couples, - b. Aug 27, 13:15 3
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      - I hadn't seen it when I was typing, but now see above. I wish it was simpler, grny, truly. (everyone should get everything in writing, when it's not- - b. Aug 27, 13:17 1
        
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  - the money went right to the funeral home. - groiny Aug 27, 13:14
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I guess. IMHO at worst the guy changed his mind and now wants his gift to be a loan. Since it was in the best case scenario a gift, if he wants it

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