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friday hax chat q: she was jilted by ex-bf for another woman. fast forward 10 years: the other woman is . . . dead

Posted by jangles (aka chris) Nov 13 '15, 11:06

Q: gruesome private investigation

Ten years ago, my then-fiancé and boyfriend of five years started a relationship with another woman and then broke up with me to continue that. I wasn't exciting enough or pretty enough and other insulting reasons. We never spoke again. At the time, it was really crushing. By the time I found someone else, it was too late for me to have children with my own eggs, and it also took years for me to recover from the whole thing. I have moved on. I married someone wonderful and had a beautiful child through egg donation. I have a satisfying career and a good life. But a small part of me has always hoped that the relationship between the ex and the other woman wouldn't last. Fast forward to today. I've never looked up the ex, but every few years, I've looked up the other woman. It turns out she died a couple years ago. The obituary did not say what happened and I am curious about it. I could find out anonymously for not very much money by hiring a private investigator. It seems totally tawdry to seek grim satisfaction from finding out more. I know it's tacky. Is it also wrong? Does it matter as long as it is anonymous? (To be clear, the private investigator can get records through freedom of information act requests that would not be in my name. So no one would contact anyone involved, and they also wouldn't know that anyone had obtained the information. It would just be a records request from the city, and would not bring any more pain to her family or my ex.) Thank you for your thoughts.

Responses:

A dead chick ain't gonna make you any prettier. -- nm -- nm - CQ Nov 13, 11:42 1
- Unless you get her right when she dies and all her parts are fresh for harvesting. -- nm - Max Nov 13, 11:49
semi-tangent: Nancy Irsay just passed away. -- nm - Spawn Nov 13, 11:40
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yes, you're a horrible person. next! -- nm - znufrii Nov 13, 11:18
to what end? gloat over someone's death? feel smug that you are still here? -- nm - Andie Nov 13, 11:13 3
- suggest that the ex might have KILLED HER? -- nm* - gravy Nov 13, 11:18 2
  - This is it. Has no one ever watched a damn Lifetime movie? -- nm - jangles Nov 13, 11:35 1
    - My Ex Will Kill: The Crazy Hax Letter Writer Lady Story. -- nm - gravy Nov 13, 11:38
Sure she didn't look up the ex at all. Sure. -- nm - Inigo Nov 13, 11:13 5
- ik, r? -- nm - gravy Nov 13, 11:13 4
  - I think she wants to hit up the ex one more time - at least -- nm - Pippy Nov 13, 11:22 2
    - or, tie him to a bed in a cabin in the woods -- nm - decline Nov 13, 11:23 1
      - or both -- nm - znufrii Nov 13, 11:30
  - She is just curious if they had suspects. -- nm - Spawn Nov 13, 11:14
GET THERAPY -- nm* - ty97 Nov 13, 11:11
how you type that out, read it and don't immediately feel embarrassed (and maybe place yourself on a Psych-Hold) is beyond me. -- nm - Mel Profit Nov 13, 11:11 1
- I have moved on. I have a satisfying career and a good life. - ty97 Nov 13, 11:14
'I wasn't exciting enough or pretty enough' - Shaun Nov 13, 11:10 1
- ...or sane enough -- nm - Pippy Nov 13, 11:15
creepy stalker lady -- nm - decline Nov 13, 11:10
What a ghoul. -- nm - David Nov 13, 11:09
she crazy -- nm - Beaker Nov 13, 11:08

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