friday hax chat q: she showed him a cute kitten pic on her secret social media account and now BF wants to call it quits
Posted by
jar jar trump (aka chris)
Dec 18 '15, 10:52
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Q: Is it abuse?
I've been dating my bf for 11 months. This has been the best relationship I have ever been in and I love him. Last weekend he found out about a social media account I had that I didn't tell him about and he got very upset. He found out when I showed him a post of a cute kitten on the site. I showed it to him, so it wasn't so much as secret as an omission. He says that since I kept this from him, it has made him reconsider our whole relationship and he doesn't feel like he knows me at all anymore. He says he is totally transparent (really? is anybody?) and I am withholding. I am an introvert and usually very private, but I have really opened up to him and even brought him home to meet my family for Thanksgiving, which was a first for me. He swears that his reaction isn't caused by not trusting me, its about the principle of not keeping secrets. I say that principles don't function well in the real world and that the nature of the secret was so unimportant that his reaction is ridiculous. (I was not doing anything offensive on the site) I told my Mom about this and she says he is controlling and gas-lighting me. I'm not sure, but something does feel wrong. He sees the world in more black and white, right and wrong. And I see more gray. I don't know what to think anymore. Is his reaction over the top?
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Responses:
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I think the mom doesn't like the boyfriend for taking her away and is playing them against each other. -- nm
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spamlet
Dec 18, 11:30
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yeah, having principles in the real world is way over rated. lying psycho slut -- nm
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CQ
Dec 18, 11:28
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DTMF - His reaction is a big red flag that what her mom says is right. -- nm
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lii3ou2lu8
Dec 18, 11:18
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"social media account" = Ashley Madison -- nm
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Admiral Ackbaron
Dec 18, 11:17
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"I see more gray" is enough to make me think they're both better off with different people. -- nm
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Max Rebo
Dec 18, 11:03
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is "cute kitten pic" a euphemism?
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znufrii
Dec 18, 11:02
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unless it's a dating site: run, run fast, run hard, don't look back. -- nm
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bb.-8
Dec 18, 10:55
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he is totally over-reacting, but this statement of her's is a little off: " I say that principles don't function well in the real world." -- nm*
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Landie Calrissian
Dec 18, 10:54
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he's bangin' some other chick and is too much of a wuss to call it off with kitten-girl and this gave him an excuse -- nm
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decline
Dec 18, 10:54
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