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Re B2, here are my thoughts on the potential move:

Posted by kelly Feb 3 '16, 07:36

The idea of being even further away from my mom/family is the biggest negative, but my mom insists that she will still visit us, that not much will change. While I wont be able to hop in the car and drive up with N, we might have a better financial situation living in TN that will allow us to fly up instead. We talked this through with my mom last night and she was pretty adamant that not much would change. I'm saddened by the idea that instead of moving closer to family, as I had hoped, we will be going the opposite direction, but hey, what can you do. (The thought of not living by the ocean for the first time in my life makes me sad, which is weird since I hate the beach and never go anyway. But even always been an east coaster!)

I've already uprooted once before, and while I hated it then and would not be looking forward to doing it again, I know I will survive.

School systems seem good out there, and that's s big plus, as N will be starting kindergarten next September. (Omg what)

As dumb as this sounds, I finally found doctors here that I love and don't want to have to go through that again. But that's not a reason to stay.

Houses out there for sale, while dated as hell, are much bigger for the money than what we'd get here. A single family home with a backyard would be nice. An extra bedroom to be used as a playroom/toy area for N would be even nicer. And the fact that Will's company pays for the move (packs up for us!) and pays for some of the closing costs is a huge plus.

As far as the job, Will thinks he will hate it. This may be true, but Will has hated every job he's had since I've known him - and from what his friends say, even before them - so meh, he can hate his job in a bigger house.

There's nothing tying Will to the area any more (mom is gone, dad and brother have moved, family still here is not involved in our lives, and we hardly ever see our friends) so if we are going to do it, this might be the time, before N starts school and makes attachments.

I'm not dying to do this, but I see the upsides. And if we are going to do it, doing it with a 4 year old rather than a 12 year old is the better time.

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My .02. It sounds like staying and the new commute in current job just isn't viable. So there are two possible solutions. The move (steady job, good - pmb Feb 3, 08:05
As I mentioned, if you look in Karns instead of Oak Ridge, you'll find awesome, not dated houses. -- nm - Dark Callisto Feb 3, 08:03
Oh! One other thing - kelly Feb 3, 07:40 10
- one thought - Truman Feb 3, 07:48
- I definitely to like the flexibility that the lower cost of living would provide you guys in general - ty97 Feb 3, 07:43 8
  - your IM sounds like something your mother would say. :) -- nm - Diva Feb 3, 07:52 2
    - Not even an hour ago, I had to tell my mother, who is at least considering a move to FL (I can't even) that there's now] way in hell I would ever. -- nm* - ty97 Feb 3, 07:54 1
      - how often in a week do you guys have this conversation? this is so cute and weird to me, but I understand it. - Diva Feb 3, 07:56
  - Ha! No. Mom just renovated her new house close to the water. She's not going *anywhere*. -- nm - kelly Feb 3, 07:46 4
    - You're going to amazed on how much you'll save on groceries alone. -- nm - CQ Feb 3, 08:00
    - what town is her new house in? (I bet it's gorgeous.) -- nm - Diva Feb 3, 08:00 2
      - South Kingstown (Wakefield) - kelly Feb 3, 08:05 1
        
        :) -- nm - Diva Feb 3, 08:31
how often does mom visit now? -- nm - groiny Feb 3, 07:40 2
- A few times a year. But they are usually quick trips. Up Saturday morning, back Sunday night. That wouldn't happen any more. -- nm - kelly Feb 3, 07:42 1
  - so really, that would not change all that much. - groiny Feb 3, 08:02
Well, you guys seem to have a good handle prioritizing things while you are making the decision - prayformojo Feb 3, 07:39 2
- The trouble is that, like most everything else we discuss, we have different opinions. - kelly Feb 3, 07:52 1
  - ygm -- nm - prayformojo Feb 3, 07:55
hell, given the housing prices down there you can probably get a place with an in-law suite for extended mom visits :) -- nm - decline Feb 3, 07:39 1
- wonderful idea! We have that. So effin awesome! -- nm - CQ Feb 3, 07:57

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