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In response to
"So in relationship news, this whole getting married thing? Not so sure it's going to happen."
by
pmb
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Ok...seeing that your daughter is 16, it makes my thoughts the same as my initial thought...
Posted by
Jim (aka Jim)
Apr 13 '09, 11:27
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Your daughter is being incredilby unreasonable and unfair here and someone needs to tell her that.
The divorce is over 3 years in the past now...it's not going to be repaired.
And it's bullshit (and I'd tell her this) that she is holding you hostage because of the divorce.
I mean seriously...are you not allowed to be happy because you're not with her mother anymore?
She may claim that it's just this particular woman...but by the sounds of it, it's not.
To me, your daughter needs to be told, in no uncertain terms, how unfair she is being to you. Because no 16 year old should have this much pull in her father's life/relationships.
As to your fiancee...she could get over herself a little bit. Your house is your house. If the plan is for her to move into your house...then she has to get over the fact that someone else once lived there with you. Hell, a new house might not be a bad thing for both of you, but it just may not be an option right now...and she needs to get over it.
She also needs to be a little more understanding on the daughter thing. While your daughter is dead wrong, IMO, your fiancee bitching about it doesn't help, it only makes things worse.
I can, however, see her thought process here. She wants some kind of sign that shows her that she will not play second fiddle in your life or your heart. So if she sees your daughter affecting your decisions that much, that's how she's going to feel and I can understand that.
However...maybe you should copy paste mandy's post to your fiancee and have her remember back to being a 16 year old and see if maybe she wouldn't be able to sympathize with your daughter as well.
Anyway...rant/advice over...I feel for you dude. Your caught between the 3 most important people in your life and trying to make them all happy is going to be an amazing balancing feat. Best wishes for a nice outcome on this.
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