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In response to
"dude, I am so so sorry. this couldn't happen to a nicer guy. you so don't deserve this. I'll say two things, neither of which will be very helpful."
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mandy lane has totally lost track of days
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Thanks.
Posted by
pmb (aka pmb)
Apr 13 '09, 11:29
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Their being teenagers is a big part of this. It's why they could handle the change earlier with their mother. They were younger. And part of the problem is that my fiance doesn't have kids of her own. The fact that she doesn't has been one of the most devastating things in her life (she desperately wanted them). But it's also part of why she takes everything from them so personally (and shuts down sometimes around them). Sometimes when they're being non-responsive it's just because they're teenagers. I've experienced it too. You have to be persistent and patient with kids and have a thick skin. She is kind of none of those things. Part of how you learn those things with kids is growing up with them and she doesn't have that experience. I keep asking her to trust me and my advice on this stuff, but she has trouble doing it.
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