bonus hax chat q: bro and his wife suggested that they check out a house that was for sale around the corner so they could live close to each other
Posted by
pixie ninja (aka chris)
Mar 25 '16, 11:25
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Q: Family House Drama
My brother and his wife recently bought a house. When they bought it, they said to us that we should look at the house around the corner that was also for sale -- not once but twice. I was a little surprised because while my brother and I get along well, his wife has never expressed much interest in joining our family. We looked at a lot of different houses but have not found one we liked so we went to look at it and wound up really liking it. We decided to make an offer and asked (before we did) if they were sure that they were OK with us making the offer since his wife has in the past showed so hesitation to be super close. They said yes (somewhat enthusiastically too!). So we made an offer. After we made the offer, my brother sent us a text basically saying that they were afraid that living so close would be stressful to them and our relationship and that our kids might have issues in school (same age kids but not even in school yet). My husband and I were obviously upset--both because of the timing of the text (after they told us to look at the house and said they were fine with us making an offer) and the insulting text that was masked under a superficial pretense of wanting to maintain our "great" relationship. Our offer was accepted and we decided to keep moving forward. We never responded to his text and there is some obvious tension. My brother has refused to respond to texts about inspectors and mortgages, etc. Basically refuses to acknowledge we are going through with the purchase. My brother's MO is usually to ignore any conflict and avoids talking things through. Since we are going to be neighbors (and obviously still family), I feel like we probably should talk things out, but I am not sure the best approach at this point. Any advice?
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