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In response to
"LIR for PMB - I know it's crazy and yall can feel free to say so but..."
by
Epiphany
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It's really not me. I appreciate the concept, but it's just not me.
Posted by
pmb (aka pmb)
Apr 13 '09, 11:58
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And part of the problem is that honestly the way my fiancee has been handling all of this, even before last night's problem, had given me doubts about our long term viability. I keep finding myself having to talk myself back in to believing that the woman I fell in love with and asked to marry me will show up again when we finally get married, because she's been incredibly difficult to deal with. My hope and plan was that we would work through things and find firm ground again, but this has thrown a wrench into that. I totally understand how difficult this all is for her, but the problem had been that she would filter all her anxiety into creating other issues (that avoided the real problem). Constantly running down an ever-lengthening litany of things we have to fix or change in the house, her feeling that I had doubts and that I was just testing things, when in reality I didn't, until she created them. I had been patient and kept steering her towards the real issues, but it wore me down too. Her fears about my doubts became a self-fulfilling prophecy. I still would like to work through things, I'm just not sure I can throw caution to the wind the way you suggest.
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