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In response to "One last post for pmb and a question for the ST ladies...is it actually uncommon for a woman to not want to move into the ex's house?" by Jim

I wonder what would be her response if he asked her about looking for a new home. -- nm

Posted by zork (aka zork) Apr 13 '09, 12:53

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That's what I'm thinking. What if he were to say to her...we're not putting any more money into changing anything in this house. - Jim Apr 13, 12:53 19
- My feelings on this were that I didn't want to take the house away from the kids. - pmb Apr 13, 12:57 8
  - Anyway...though...it seems like the feelings your daughters have are normal and the feelings your fiancee has are normal... - Jim Apr 13, 13:04
  - oh, of course. -- nm - Andie Apr 13, 13:00
  - I can understand that, but it might cost you your finance. -- nm - Spawn Apr 13, 12:59 5
    - his fiancee too -- nm - zork Apr 13, 13:00
    - But he's monocle... -- nm - Diva Apr 13, 13:00 3
      - lol. It is impossible to say "finance" (on the phone) and type "finance"!!! -- nm - Spawn Apr 13, 13:06 1
        
        I'm thinking he has a fiancee and not a fiance - zork Apr 13, 13:12
      - He probably has lots of finance. -- nm - Inigo Apr 13, 13:06
- That would make his daughters feely completely displaced. In their minds they are having to give up their home for her. -- nm - jnine Apr 13, 12:54 9
  - So instead...he should give up his fiancee for them? -- nm - Jim Apr 13, 13:02 3
    - No. But this is something I think his fiancee has to compromise on, for now. -- nm - jnine Apr 13, 13:04
    - to be fair, this isn't as simple as 'the issues will all go away if they move." it's painfully complex. :( -- nm - Andie Apr 13, 13:03 1
      - Maybe. maybe not. Seems to me the wife-to-be wants some sort of token/sign/something that says he's in this for the long haul with her. - Jim Apr 13, 13:05
  - he doesn't have to say to them that this is the reason. He could say that there are too many painful memories for himself there -- nm - zork Apr 13, 12:58 3
    - kids are more clever than you give them credit for. -- nm - znufrii Apr 13, 12:59 2
      - I'm not saying that he needs to fool them, but he can tell them that his primary motivator is the history there. -- nm - zork Apr 13, 13:01 1
        
        They are going to see right through that. It's important to be honest during a difficult time like this. -- nm - jnine Apr 13, 13:02
  - I agree with this. -- nm - loosilu Apr 13, 12:56

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