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In response to "I wonder what would be her response if he asked her about looking for a new home. -- nm" by zork

That's what I'm thinking. What if he were to say to her...we're not putting any more money into changing anything in this house.

Posted by Jim (aka Jim) Apr 13 '09, 12:53

We're putting it on the market and getting our own home.

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My feelings on this were that I didn't want to take the house away from the kids. - pmb Apr 13, 12:57 8
- Anyway...though...it seems like the feelings your daughters have are normal and the feelings your fiancee has are normal... - Jim Apr 13, 13:04
- oh, of course. -- nm - Andie Apr 13, 13:00
- I can understand that, but it might cost you your finance. -- nm - Spawn Apr 13, 12:59 5
  - his fiancee too -- nm - zork Apr 13, 13:00
  - But he's monocle... -- nm - Diva Apr 13, 13:00 3
    - lol. It is impossible to say "finance" (on the phone) and type "finance"!!! -- nm - Spawn Apr 13, 13:06 1
      - I'm thinking he has a fiancee and not a fiance - zork Apr 13, 13:12
    - He probably has lots of finance. -- nm - Inigo Apr 13, 13:06
That would make his daughters feely completely displaced. In their minds they are having to give up their home for her. -- nm - jnine Apr 13, 12:54 9
- So instead...he should give up his fiancee for them? -- nm - Jim Apr 13, 13:02 3
  - No. But this is something I think his fiancee has to compromise on, for now. -- nm - jnine Apr 13, 13:04
  - to be fair, this isn't as simple as 'the issues will all go away if they move." it's painfully complex. :( -- nm - Andie Apr 13, 13:03 1
    - Maybe. maybe not. Seems to me the wife-to-be wants some sort of token/sign/something that says he's in this for the long haul with her. - Jim Apr 13, 13:05
- he doesn't have to say to them that this is the reason. He could say that there are too many painful memories for himself there -- nm - zork Apr 13, 12:58 3
  - kids are more clever than you give them credit for. -- nm - znufrii Apr 13, 12:59 2
    - I'm not saying that he needs to fool them, but he can tell them that his primary motivator is the history there. -- nm - zork Apr 13, 13:01 1
      - They are going to see right through that. It's important to be honest during a difficult time like this. -- nm - jnine Apr 13, 13:02
- I agree with this. -- nm - loosilu Apr 13, 12:56

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That's what I'm thinking. What if he were to say to her...we're not putting any more money into changing anything in this house.

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