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Guys, I just performed the single greatest feat of dadhood ever!

I had a reasonable, rational discussion with my daughter about sexual activity AT HER BEHEST.

She came to me for advice and opinion and to sound out whether she'd be allowed to spend the night with a guy. Not with the intention of having sex with him, but just trying to see how upset I'd be by the idea.

We've had regular discussions about safety, precautions, expectations for literally years now, but this is more "well, you've said when I decide to have sex is up to me" (it is) "and I know how to be safe" (she does, even having purchased condoms just to see her friends' heads explode) and "would you be upset if I spent the night with a guy" meaning hanging out without the stated goal being sex.

So we had a discussion about consent. And a discussion about me needing to meet him before she can go out with him (let alone spend time at his house). And my expectations for curfews, etc., etc. And warnings/concerns about emotional stuff that goes with sex.

The big issues are that he'll be a senior and she'll be a sophomore in the fall. He's moving before the school year starts. They've shared classes and enjoy the same music and TV shows.



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