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In response to
"I'm trying to be cautious I spent 3 months getting to know her on facebook before telling her I was interested or before she said she is too."
by
Stacy
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look at those extra red flags.
Posted by
b! (aka starrynut)
Apr 21 '09, 13:54
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what you describe would be difficult enough to overcome in person, let alone from half a world away. the anonymity/hidden nature of the internet can allow people to say things that they would not in person - for better or worse.
i know this: you can spend years talking with someone you met online and not really know for sure what/who they really are and what they are capable of hurting-you-wise.
you can spend months talking with someone *a lot* and even think things are safer because of circumstances, only to discover they are notsotrustworthy (emotions-wise).
even under better (living closer) circumstances, i would advise anyone/everyone to self-protect when on-screen words are the only contact. add in inexperience and a new interest in someone of the same gender, and raise those heart-boundaries even higher.
i hope things work out, but you really really need to be careful and take steps beyond text.
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