bonus hax chat q: her husband hasn't worked for over 10 years
Posted by
mr monkey (aka chris)
Sep 23 '16, 14:11
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Q: Unequal marriage
My husband hasn't worked for more than 10 years. He left his last job without informing me and decided to be an entrepreneur. That never panned out and he has never made an attempt to return to the work force. I, however, finished a degree, have maintained upward moving employment, and now have both a full and part time job, both of which I enjoy. We are barely breaking even. We have four children. He drives them all to school, picks them up at various times/places, after sports, etc. He keeps the house relatively clean. He has dinner at least partially started most days (I enjoy cooking and usually like it more when I can do the whole thing). He is wonderful with the kids, homework is done before I get home, he still makes me laugh. I still sometimes get a stomach flutter upon seeing him. The problem is I never agreed to this, never expected to be the only financial provider. While I'm grateful for all the things he does that aren't money related -- grass cutting, car maintenance, toilet fixing, bug catching, chauffeuring -- we could be doing so much better if we had two incomes. I've tried broaching the subject of his returning to work and the response has changed over the years -- no one to pick up kids who didn't have after care, etc. He's never angry, just seemingly reconciled as though he wishes I'd just get on board with his not being a financial provider. And my level of resentment is at an all time high (it happens more when the holidays loom and I'm responsible for gift buying, but more so when the kids are on break and I have to get up and go to work while he can remain snug).
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