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friday hax chat: she doesn't want new hubby hanging out with their single female friends and hearing about all the escapades they're having

Posted by pigby (aka chris) Apr 24 '09, 10:10

Bethesda, Md.: My husband and I, both 24, were the first in our social circle to get married. Most of our friends are still in school or working in large cities, and either way they have more active dating lives than I ever had. I don't feel jealous -- I love my husband -- but something they all seem to do really bothers me. Whenever we meet up in groups, to chat or have drinks or hang out at the park, the conversation always turns to everyone's latest dating woes. The guys and the girls are equally guilty of indiscretion, but it's the girls I always seem to notice. They go on and on about the club scene where they live and their polygamous sex lives. They wear revealing clothes that I gave up after high school and they often get hit on by strangers while we're hanging out.

What bugs me about this is I don't feel they should be talking and acting that way around my husband, a married man. I would prefer he not be thinking about our female friends' wild sex lives or noticing how hot everyone thinks they are. I know this is why married couples naturally gravitate toward other married couples, but these are the friends we have and I do not want to trade them in, so to speak. In your opinion, can I say something to my girlfriends about how uncomfortable I feel, or since I'm so outnumbered do I have to just suck it up and be miserable around them all the time?

Responses:

I got news for this one - she can trade all of her single friends for married ones - and it might be worse - Epiphany Apr 24, 10:18 2
- laughing ... if they're like you. ;P -- nm - loosilu Apr 24, 10:19 1
  - LOL! -- nm - Epiphany Apr 24, 10:21
does she dose his food with saltpeter? -- nm - Reagen Apr 24, 10:15 1
- I know a geo that had camp cooks do that. I'm not convinced it accomplished anything. - mafic Apr 24, 10:17
loser -- nm - CQ Apr 24, 10:15
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- *exactly* -- nm - mary land loves mandy lane Apr 24, 10:17
- and the doorman -- nm - pigby Apr 24, 10:15
- seriously. "i prefer my husband doesn't think about..." ha! ha! -- nm - kare Apr 24, 10:14
somebody needs to learn what polygamous means. and also to mellow out. -- nm - mafic Apr 24, 10:13 1
- seriously. -- nm - znufrii Apr 24, 10:20
oh dear. if it bugs her that much she needs to make new friends, but first she needs to chill. -- nm - loosilu Apr 24, 10:13
A) She needs to look up the definition of "polygamy". B) No, she's not AT ALL jealous.... -- nm - Ender Apr 24, 10:12
dear insecure in maryland: cancel your cable, get your husband a bubble and some blinders. -- nm - mary land loves mandy lane Apr 24, 10:12 6
- the thing is, they're *her* girlfriends -- nm - pigby Apr 24, 10:14 4
  - and she does not want to trade them in - so really what her options? nothing. - Epiphany Apr 24, 10:20 3
    - I think she wants Carolyn to tell her it's ok to try to control her husband AND her friends. -- nm - loosilu Apr 24, 10:20 2
      - oh god. then she's more delusional then I thought. -- nm - Epiphany Apr 24, 10:22 1
        
        I almost feel bad for her. she doesn't trust anyone. how miserable that must be. -- nm - loosilu Apr 24, 10:23
- kinky. -- nm - mafic Apr 24, 10:14
good lord! the sooner she learns she can't control him, the better. -- nm - kare Apr 24, 10:12

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