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In response to
"Sorry pmb, terrible position to be in no matter what."
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groiny
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Thanks for the thoughts from everyone. My sisters have taken on the lion share of dealing with this stuff for the last couple of years. Their
Posted by
pmb (aka pmb)
Aug 9 '17, 13:53
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schedules are way more flexible than mine. All the powers of attorney lie with them. For my part, being here at the end would be more for my mother and my family than for me. Spending this time with them is hard for me. I love my parents and watching my mother wasting away is hard for me to watch. And my father is nearly completely deaf which makes it difficult to communicate (along with some early dementia). My being there would be to hopefully give them comfort more than for my own need to sort of "soak in" as much as I can of them before they go. I prefer to remember them as they were. My sisters say I should go. I'm genuinely torn. If she's stable, I am probably leaning towards going (though I'm still not in any way set on it). I'd essentially be betting on status quo that has remained as is for 3-4 weeks won't change dramatically in 9 days (I can come back after that if it's changing). If she's not stable it's an easier call to stay. It just really sucks. Planning and training for this trip has been the thing I have spent virtually all my free time on for nearly a year. It's not easy to give it up after all that preparation and anticipation.
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I would wonder are you going to be able to put this out of your mind when you're climbing? It could be a safety hazard if you're distracted. Also,
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jnine
Aug 9, 14:35
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ultimately, it rests on you to decide what is best for you.
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groiny
Aug 9, 13:59
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Otoh, some local friends, wen and cin since childhood, cin has been hospice for a year now, didn't expect her to last past xmas, wen almost cancel
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zeitgeist
Aug 9, 13:58
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:( -- nm
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Andie
Aug 9, 13:54
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