Apropos of the adoption poll below, I recently found out something sort of similar. Deep dark pmb family secret revealed through ancestry.com.
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pmb (aka pmb)
Mar 20 '18, 13:51
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So some months back my sister did an ancestry dna test. Oddly it came back with her showing as a half sister to 4 or 5 other women. They started getting in touch with each other and trying to figure out the connection when someone finally put it together. They all were born in the same hospital (close in age). All of the mothers had the same OB/GYN. We knew that my parents had some initial trouble conceiving. They had tried for a couple of years (and my mother had quit her job on advice of her doctor (the 50's)). My mother was always pretty open with my older sister about this and told her that she went in for a procedure to get some fibroids removed and then immediately got pregnant.
So it appears that "procedure" was actually artificial insemination from a sperm donor. None of the women were ever told of this. All of the parents, except my father, are now gone. My sister got my dad to do a dna test and it confirmed he is not my older sister's father. My younger sister had hers tested and she is my father's daughter (she was the oops kid about 6 years younger than me). I have not been tested, but my daughter had randomly done hers and showed as further removed from my sister and my father than if my father was her biological grandfather. So apparently my father is not my biological father. Given the time when this occurred and the stigma attached in those days, it's possible that all the parents just took the secret to the grave with them. We haven't discussed it with my father. It's possible he didn't know. At this point he probably doesn't remember and we don't see any reason to cause him stress. There's even been some suggestion that none of them knew given the times and the lesser accountability and systems in place from back then. I have not been tested and am hesitant to do so for a variety of reasons (one being that he's still my dad and it doesn't really matter). But it's a pretty crazy story. My sister has gotten together with a couple of her "sisters" now. She doesn't really look like them, though they look a lot like each other. It's all pretty surreal.
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I would guess that your sister's father is your mother's OB/GYN. Just because all of them had the same doctor doesn't mean he would have used the
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jnine
Mar 20, 20:10
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Whoa! -- nm
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Diva
Mar 20, 14:16
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good gravy -- nm
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prayformojo
Mar 20, 14:03
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whoa -- nm
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JaxSean
Mar 20, 13:55
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that is crazy. i wonder if it is possible your parents (both) didn't even know. -- nm*
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Andie
Mar 20, 13:55
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!!! If you were open to it, this sounds like it could be a story on the news.
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Max
Mar 20, 13:55
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that's.. wow. I wonder how many others there could be who don't know, eep. -- nm
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b.
Mar 20, 13:55
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wow, that is surreal -- nm
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crash davis
Mar 20, 13:53
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