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Because having someone other than a parent watch the child is already disruptive enough to the child. Being in a familiar environment helps. -- nm

Posted by Mop (235 lbs) (aka rburriel) Jun 16 '09, 12:47

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Although really, that is probably more us parents overthinking it and being overprotective than it is a real problem. - TFox Jun 16, 12:50 7
- i think so. but then again, i will probably be as overprotective as they come. -- nm - kare Jun 16, 12:52
- To each their own. -- nm - Spawn Jun 16, 12:51 5
  - I think we're thinking of different situations though. Like, Jacen stays over at Grandma's house all the time. - TFox Jun 16, 12:52 4
    - ...but I'd never send him to stay at a new babysitter's house, but if it was a good friend and some place *he* had been a bunch... - Spawn Jun 16, 12:54 3
      - well, i was specifically referencing myself, auntie karen, as babysitting close friends' and relatives' kids. doing them a favor. - kare Jun 16, 13:00
      - Yup. (nm) - musubi Jun 16, 12:55
      - fair enough. -- nm - TFox Jun 16, 12:54
Ayup. kare, don't you think your pets would be more comfortable being watched at your pad, than carting them somewhere else? - musubi Jun 16, 12:50 19
- i cart the pets to the doggysitter's place every time, because i am concerned about making it as convenient as possible for the person who is already - kare Jun 16, 12:51 18
  - So you wouldn't *rather* have the sitter watch them at your pad? - musubi Jun 16, 12:54 17
    - i babysit all the time. i do it at their house. it's fine. it's just interesting to me that the parents don't tend to think about how, when i have to - kare Jun 16, 12:58 16
      - I don't think you're giving (most) parents enough credit for recognizing how much a babysitter does. - musubi Jun 16, 13:03 1
        
        maybe not. *again,* i recognize i probably don't fully understand, because i've never been a parent. -- nm - kare Jun 16, 13:07
      - Depending on the circumstances I think most parents don't think it's a much greater inconvenience for you. - pmb Jun 16, 13:02
      - The big question: Are you getting paid or doing them a favor. If it's a favor then you might suggest trying it once at your place - TWuG Jun 16, 13:00 12
        
        oh, and no, of course i'm not getting paid -- nm - kare Jun 16, 13:08 1
        
        (it's usually way fun and great quality time with the kiddos and it's totally worth it.) -- nm - kare Jun 16, 13:08
        
        i've suggested before. "but it's so much easier..." - kare Jun 16, 13:01 9
        
        Also, it is hard to know what Logan is going to want each night. I could pack-up 90% of his stuff and still not have the one thing he wants. -- nm - Spawn Jun 16, 13:05 7
        
        after the fiftieth "I WANT MY BOBA FETT!", kare may end up agreeing :) -- nm - con_carne Jun 16, 13:12
        
        How old is Logan now? - TWuG Jun 16, 13:07 1
        
        2.5 -- nm - Spawn Jun 16, 13:21
        
        see, and this is the kind of thing i would not understand because i am not a parent. i am not trying to bash all you parents here! - kare Jun 16, 13:06 3
        
        Oh, I know. It is just that I have always known this. I mean, I had been around little kids and it is not too difficult to figure out how they think. - Spawn Jun 16, 13:24 1
        
        mmkay. -- nm - kare Jun 16, 13:32
        
        No I didn't think you were. Nor was I trying to bash you. Just trying to help you understand a possible differnent POV. - musubi Jun 16, 13:14
        
        Oh, with some parents it isn't even about the kid, they just don't want the hassle of - TWuG Jun 16, 13:04
Yeah. This is prettty obvious. No way I am making Logan stay some strange place unless I am there with him. -- nm - Spawn Jun 16, 12:49 4
- Logan, this is a strip club. -- nm - Dano Jun 16, 12:52 1
  - He would be such a pimp. -- nm - Spawn Jun 16, 12:53
- not only would I take him somewhere else, I'd give him a compass and a map and tell him to find his own way home. -- nm - znufrii Jun 16, 12:51 1
  - and once he gets old enough, I'm just leaving him witha compass. -- nm - znufrii Jun 16, 12:57
A stranger's house is mentally stimulating. They might have trouble falling asleep that night. -- nm - con_carne Jun 16, 12:49
i can understand this to an extent too. though one would argue a change of scenery may be kinda fun for a kiddo. - kare Jun 16, 12:49 16
- I think it depends on a lot of things. The age of the kid, the personality of the kid, the babysitter. It's mostly that it's easiest for the parents - pmb Jun 16, 12:56
- Change of scenery isn't what babysitting is about though. - musubi Jun 16, 12:53 14
  - fair enough. most parents i've babysat for (friends and family) obviously feel the same way - kare Jun 16, 12:55 12
    - well, there's a couple distinctions here. one, if its a favor, that's a little different than someone I'm paying,. - TFox Jun 16, 12:57
    - You know it's often a chore to just load kids into the car and pack all the stuff they will need for the stay, etc. right? -- nm - con_carne Jun 16, 12:57 7
      - What she's saying is, she knows it's a chore either way, but shouldn't the one asking the favor do more of the chore part? -- nm - TFox Jun 16, 12:58 6
        
        Yeah, kare recognizes that parents have part of the chore. I just think neither side is wrong is asking for what they want. - musubi Jun 16, 13:00 5
        
        yeah, i agree. i do think the fact that even family doesn't let the kids stay with Aunt Kare is a hair weird. - TFox Jun 16, 13:02 4
        
        no no, sorry, nieces and nephews *have* actually stayed with me over the years. - kare Jun 16, 13:04 3
        
        i see what you are saying, and i'm with you. - TFox Jun 16, 13:06 2
        
        This is the thing. I think *most* parents try to make it flexible for friends/family. Her situation is the outlier, not the norm. (nm) - musubi Jun 16, 13:07 1
        
        And to be fair, maybe her sit is the norm, and I'm just not understanding it. (nm) - musubi Jun 16, 13:19
    - No, I think parents recognize this is an inconvenience for the sitter (well, at least I do), but it's part of the job requirement. - musubi Jun 16, 12:57 2
      - Besides, kare could call the BF over and be naughty. - con_carne Jun 16, 12:58 1
        
        ha. nah, i told him a boy's night was mandatory. -- nm - kare Jun 16, 13:11
  - Especially for overnight. An afternoon? Sure. -- nm - Spawn Jun 16, 12:55

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