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In response to "It's not *about* you. If any other person had said it, it would have been just as offensive." by Reagen

This whole thing could have been handled better.

Posted by secretslacker Jun 21 '09, 14:03

For instance, if someone said either here or in Email... "Hey, secretslacker, I think Amoxy was really offended by your joke about his kids on the previous board," I could have gone back and seen what Amoxy said and would have immediately shot off an Email to him apologizing (which I've done incidentally)... but instead it immediately became "You must apologize... you've tarnished the innocence of his children with your statements... your apology sucks... you're an asshole..." etc.

See what I mean? It's a classic case of two wrongs don't make a right. If I had realized there was a previous incident that has made Amoxy sensitive to his kids being mentioned in jokes, I would never have said that. I personally offended that people around here would think otherwise... but it's not like I'm going to storm off in an indignant huff because I've gotten completely inured to the sad fact that it is the norm here, rather than the exception.

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Well if you would have offended him in an email and not a public board. We would have known nothing about it. - Redmond Jun 21, 14:09
Bery said to you quite politely that he thought you should apologize to amoxy. Your first response? "What? It was a JOKE!" -- nm - Reagen Jun 21, 14:06 6
- Yes, but that's because I hadn't read the B2 responses and wasn't aware of the previous incident. - secretslacker Jun 21, 14:08 5
  - but as liiouo mentions above, and as others have mentioned since, that previous incident isn't what flipped the switch on what made the joke offensive - Reagen Jun 21, 14:13 4
    - Well, maybe explaining it 8 or 9 times is reasonable, but now that we're up to 15 or so, it's really gone beyond the pale. -- nm - TFox Jun 21, 14:14 3
      - It's called "making an effort"... which is more than most of my critics deserve. -- nm - secretslacker Jun 21, 14:17 2
        
        Psst, idiot. He's not complimenting you. -- nm - Subversive Jun 21, 14:23 1
        
        I'm aware of that. I'm just saying that if someone honestly meant to offend in the first place, they would not be making the effort to resolve this. -- nm - secretslacker Jun 21, 14:25

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This whole thing could have been handled better.

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