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In response to "He has the more restrictive needs, therefore it is his responsibility to act if his needs cannot be met. -- nm" by znufrii

that's insane. he's clear on what he wants, she won't say whether she can do that or not. -- nm

Posted by Andie (aka Andie) Jun 25 '09, 14:04

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From her original post I took it to mean that she *had* told him that it wasn't what she wanted. -- nm - znufrii Jun 25, 14:08 21
- i'm sure she has. but she obviously hasn't said 'i can't do this' or they would be, in fact, broken up. -- nm - Andie Jun 25, 14:09 8
  - whether she can or can't isn't even relevant to the discussion. it's about what she wants. -- nm - znufrii Jun 25, 14:11 7
    - If you're *7*. -- nm - Reagen Jun 25, 14:18 6
      - I think if people focused more on what they wanted out of a relationship rather than whether or not they could provide what their partner wants... - znufrii Jun 25, 14:21 5
        
        I think you need a balance between the two. - Roger More Jun 25, 14:24
        
        *rolls eyes*. yeah, because in this day and age, people really aren't selfish enough. (nm) - musubi Jun 25, 14:22 2
        
        It's ironic that ST's anti-capitalist is saying this -- nm - Roger More Jun 25, 14:25
        
        imagine if everyone just did everything they want at all times.... -- nm - Andie Jun 25, 14:24
        
        But unfortunately, in the real world, "a relationship" has many attributes that are assumed to be in place. - TFox Jun 25, 14:22
- I have. But he wants to find a compromise -- nm - Hotkiss Jun 25, 14:08 11
  - well, there isn't really one to be had here, that I can see. - znufrii Jun 25, 14:10 9
    - She doesn't want him. He wants her. She should break up. - musubi Jun 25, 14:14 3
      - She's said nothing to indicate she doesn't want him. - znufrii Jun 25, 14:16 2
        
        You're a f***ing loon. As Andie pointed out, she wants to changed the nature of the relationship, the onus is on her. (nm) - musubi Jun 25, 14:20
        
        no one has said it's her fault. -- nm - Andie Jun 25, 14:18
    - I still don't see why the responsibility is all on him. You can just as easily say "HK has to accept his needs in the relationship, or realise that - Roger More Jun 25, 14:13 4
      - she's the one who wants a change in the status quo, i think it's on her as well. -- nm - Andie Jun 25, 14:14 3
        
        if that's the case, then you have a point - znufrii Jun 25, 14:18 1
        
        *rolls eyes* (nm) - musubi Jun 25, 14:21
        
        yep - exactly -- nm - Roger More Jun 25, 14:15
  - a compromise? it sounds like you both want what you both want. which is fine. - Andie Jun 25, 14:10

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