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In response to "Now I feel I want to add pronouns to my emails and socials. Anyone suggest any template examples? -- nm*" by JaxSean

I am new to his stuff. But why not Mr. or Ms.? -- nm

Posted by Spawn Mar 31 '21, 11:17

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The idea for cis people doing it is to normalize it. If only trans people "have to specify" pronouns by definition it is not "normal." -- nm - Dano Mar 31, 11:19 34
- would Mr./Sir be bad? -- nm - Max Mar 31, 11:22 33
  - I feel like Mister/Mister would be so much worse. -- nm - IAmQale Mar 31, 11:51 3
    - I feel like I've lost the Hz frequency kids can hear. I just can't see what's different between the two. -- nm - Max Mar 31, 11:58
    - it is the road that he must travel. -- nm - Reagen Mar 31, 11:55
    - Welcome to the real world -- nm - JaxSean Mar 31, 11:53
  - One thing I have noticed is there really isn’t a non-gendered equivalent form of address to Sir or Ma’am. -- (edited) - znufrii Mar 31, 11:39 1
    - But in this context does there need to be? If the point is to help clarify, Mr. or He does the job. 'They' clarifies that way. Everyone's clarified? -- nm - Max Mar 31, 11:44
  - I don't think it would necessarily be "bad." In my experience, any effort is appreciated by most. - Dano Mar 31, 11:32
  - Kind of has an "all lives matter" feel to it to me. - Dark Callisto Mar 31, 11:24 25
    - Maybe I read this wrong, but would my using "Mr." be different than my using "he/him"? -- nm - Spawn Mar 31, 11:30 24
      - I guess it’s fine if you expect people to refer to you with a formal honorific... -- (edited) - znufrii Mar 31, 11:35
      - he/him is common language. you aren't referred to as "Mr." that often. they aren't interchangeable -- nm - Andie Mar 31, 11:33 22
        
        I think I just realized what throws me off about labeling myself as he/him - it sounds like I'm talking about someone else. - Max Mar 31, 11:47 10
        
        You’re pointing at the wrong question. It’s how you want to be referred not, not how you want to be addressed. -- nm - znufrii Mar 31, 11:54 8
        
        I *think* he is saying what I am saying. By choosing Mr. Spawn, I am saying he/him. -- nm - Spawn Mar 31, 11:58 7
        
        this. This just makes sense. "He/him" looks clunky and makes me have to pause a sec and calculate what's going on. -- nm - Max Mar 31, 12:03 1
        
        I am one that is usually in the camp of *not* reinventing the wheel. -- nm - Spawn Mar 31, 12:10
        
        And that’s probably fine to indicate by implication, but comes across to me as a bit formal for common usage. -- nm - znufrii Mar 31, 12:01 4
        
        I meant for the purposes of an email signature. -- nm - Spawn Mar 31, 12:09 3
        
        Again, seems a bit formal. -- nm - znufrii Mar 31, 12:19 2
        
        vs aesthetics of adding a Pronouns line -- nm - Spawn Mar 31, 12:23 1
        
        Which has nothing to do with formality as I see it, that’s just providing additional information. -- nm - znufrii Mar 31, 12:33
        
        Yeah, as I said, simple. -- nm - Spawn Mar 31, 11:48
        
        Okay. I just thought it more easily stated what pronouns I chose. But I guess there is no easy to this one. Thanks. -- nm - Spawn Mar 31, 11:39
        
        i know a few people that do he/him/they/them.. some people use multiple. - colin Mar 31, 11:34 9
        
        That seems excessive. -- nm - znufrii Mar 31, 11:52 1
        
        knowing them, it seems right though.. -- nm - colin Mar 31, 12:19
        
        If you're going he+they, shouldn't you logically go "he/him/she/her/they/them"? -- nm - Max Mar 31, 11:49
        
        I always took that as they prefer "they/them," but if it's not possible go with masculine. Is there a gender neutral word for Aunt/Uncle for example? - Dano Mar 31, 11:39 5
        
        I call my sister's child my "nibling." -- nm - Dark Callisto Mar 31, 11:46 4
        
        (So pibling instead of Aunt/Uncle?) -- nm - Dark Callisto Mar 31, 11:48 3
        
        Ancle? Unt? -- nm - znufrii Mar 31, 11:58 2
        
        So what about grandma/grandpa? -- nm - Spawn Mar 31, 11:59 1
        
        Grandy -- nm - Dark Callisto Mar 31, 12:06

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