LIR:TWuG... a friend said that repair relationships have to cost something.
Posted by
colin (aka colinski)
May 14 '21, 07:49
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it has cost my partner (and to a lesser extent me) a LOT to maintain a relationship - compromise, censoring ourselves, even little things like always working around their travel schedules when they show no flexibility.
it has cost her parents nothing. they don't apologize, don't acknowledge, they want a relationship and ask, as you said, like it's their RIGHT.
the friend i have has in-laws that have been horrible in other ways. he said they're allowed back in when they can demonstrate they're willing to do something that makes them uncomfortable or that costs them something, like giving up control over situations they insist on controlling.
thanks for the words, it's a good reminder... this is hard.
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