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In response to "friend update: with my encouragement, she will "maybe" send him an email in a couple hours. stay tuned! -- nm" by kare

i think she should just cool it and wait another day.

Posted by Guy (aka lostatlimbo) Jul 8 '09, 13:46

she's going to come off very clingy if she starts texting and emailing him.

maybe he's just testing her to see how she reacts?

Responses:

my advice to her was to quit worrying about how she'd come off to him. why fear seeming needy or clingy? why not just be yourself? - kare Jul 8, 13:48 18
- stopping yourself from broadcasting a negative aspect of your personality early on in a relationship is not "playing games", imo - Guy Jul 8, 13:53 3
  - i shared my neuroticism. quite a bit. how he reacted and how we made it thru was one way in which i ultimately knew he was a keeper. -- nm - kare Jul 8, 13:55 2
    - fair enough. :) -- nm - Guy Jul 8, 13:57 1
      - as b. says above, everyone is different. :) -- nm - kare Jul 8, 13:59
- she should send him flowers -- nm - znufrii Jul 8, 13:49 1
  - heh, i thought that when i just skimmed that thread. -- nm - b. Jul 8, 13:54
- the thing is, she will *seem* needy and clingy, because she's being needy and clingy. - loosilu Jul 8, 13:49 9
  - Calling someone you slept with the next day is needy and clingy? That's effing retarded. (nm) - musubi Jul 8, 13:55 2
    - calling them with purpose is not. calling them because you're worried they won't call you is. -- nm - Guy Jul 8, 13:59
    - no, flipping out is. -- nm - loosilu Jul 8, 13:56
  - i see nothing wrong with reaching out to him, considering how their relationship is going. (question: would he seem needy and clingy if he contacted - kare Jul 8, 13:51 4
    - I know nothing about him, but I know that she's flipping out, which is the needy/clingy part. -- nm - loosilu Jul 8, 13:52 3
      - she's checking with her friends, not waiting outside his office. - b. Jul 8, 13:58 1
        
        she needs to chill before she talks to him. -- nm - loosilu Jul 8, 14:03
      - yeah, its hard to hide that part, no matter how innocuous the email is -- nm - Guy Jul 8, 13:56
  - both of you are correct -- nm - zork Jul 8, 13:50
- *endorses kare's advice* -- nm - TFox Jul 8, 13:49
- Worse case, she got laid and he got lost. Better off in the long run. -- nm - Will Hunting Jul 8, 13:49

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i think she should just cool it and wait another day.

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