Meredith's Love Letters response to Lost Without Love:
Posted by
Diva (aka Diva)
Jul 16 '09, 14:12
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A: LWL, you're a hopeless romantic? Really?
I assume you grew up watching romantic comedies. I blame romantic comedies for making people think they�re supposed to immediately sweep someone (or be swept) off their feet for no good reason.
I�m all for feet-sweeping, but that should be the second or third step in any good relationship. The first step is really getting to know someone as a peer.
My guess is that the women who aren�t letting you pay for their dinners (the dreaded feminists!) are put off by your approach. Your immediate push for romance seems disingenuous -- and I�m pretty sure it is.
My advice: When you meet a woman, really talk to her. No lines. No notes. Just real talk. Then, if you really like her -- and respect her --- you can take her for ice cream or whatever it is you want to do. Romance means so much more when you actually know the person you�re dating. It doesn't sound like you get far enough with these women to know whether there's any real connection.
And whatever you do, cut it out with the anti-feminist talk. It�s ridiculous. You say you want to find a woman who wants to be treated like a lady. Most women want to be treated like a human. Think about how you�d want to be treated and behave accordingly. Be a friend.
Perhaps dating a fellow lawyer would work. Salary and time spent at work would probably be equal. You�d be able to see through each other�s posturing. You�d have something real in common. Just a thought.
Readers? Are women no longer interested in kisses and ice cream and being swept of their footsies? Share your thoughts for our young lawyer here, because I�m sure you have plenty to say. Once again, I'm away from my desk a bit today, but the interns have promised to be speedy with the comment approval. Oh -- Twitter here.
-- Meredith
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