boston.com Love Letters response:
Posted by
Diva (aka Diva)
Jul 17 '09, 11:10
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A: 22, the issue here isn�t the vacation. I mean, people take vacations with other people�s families all the time, without the promise of marriage, without big commitments. You�ve known the guy for two years. It makes sense he�d want you along as a companion.
To me, the issue is that you have one foot out the door and you know it. You�ve basically told us that at some point sooner than later, you�re going to break-up with this fantastic guy to see what else is out there. That doesn�t make you a bad person.
What you may want to do is share this information with your fantastic guy. As you said, he�s been a great friend to you. You can return the favor by disclosing your concerns. Tell him you�d love to travel with his family but you wonder if it will give them the wrong idea. Tell him that while you fear losing him, you�re going to have to bolt at some point. Find out if he has similar plans for himself. Perhaps he does. Perhaps the holiday isn�t as meaningful to him as you think it is. Either way, it�s time for a talk about the inevitable.
I don�t think you�re over-analyzing. It just seems like you need to say the thing you don�t want to say, which is: We�re on borrowed, time, my love.
Good luck. This is why first loves are so heartbreaking.
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